- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 2017
Recently my fiancé and I have started “real planning”. Up until now (as it has been a very busy time for us at work) it has been all hypothetical stuff about colors, and ideas, etc. And suddenly we are having lots of second thoughts about a big traditional wedding. My parents have very kindly offered to pay for many aspects of the wedding, as long as they can have influence on the guest list.
They prvoded me a list of overeyone they want to invite and it is 140 people long wihtout including ANYONE from the grooms side. It is just my family and friends, plus their friends and colleagues. The grooms parents have 10 siblings between the two of them, so his side is also very big. So suddenly this is sounding like a mega wedding. While I am sure we can cut down the list quite a bit, I am feeling less and less excited about this.
I can’t wait to marry my future husband. I can’t wait for the honeymoon. The wedding itself? Starting to sound so so expensive, and so so huge. There were people on the list my mom made, who I have never even met before! She wants them invited, and wants to pay for them…but that still seems odd to me? I don’t know.
Anyway my point is that I am starting to think the whole destination wedding thing sounds amazing! On a smaller scale (fewer guests) we could have the event I imagined, with things like welcome bags, an open bar, a great caterer, wonderful decorations, without spending a fotune.
My fear is that some family and friends who WE really want to invite might not be able to attend, as is typical for destination weddings, due to the expense or an inability to travel at the time.
So my questions are:
If you ever considered a destination wedding, what made you decide yes or no?
Did you have a second “at home” reception for those who couldn’t make it? Is that a thing?
How much say should parents have in the guest list? If they pay for 60 or 70% of the event, does that mean it’s not up for debate?
Any and all help or advice is most appreciated!!!