Post # 1
So, my Fiance is anything but romantic. While he loves me very much, I know that he isn’t the type to start crying when he sees me in my dress. Even still, I find myself wanting to have his first time seeing me be down the aisle, rather than a first look.
However, when we talked about it, he said he’d rather do a first look to guarantee we have enough time for photos. I personally don’t care about photos much.
If he DID get emotional, the only way would be down the aisle. Because of the stigma behind it, plus being surrounded by our family and friends. I’m not saying I want my Fiance to cry! Haha. But I do want it to be something he remembers. And I know it won’t be significant at all with a first look…
Need advice! Did you do a first look or down the aisle? Do you regret it or are you happy with your decision?
Post # 2
I’m not married yet, but we are not planning to do a first look. It’s really important to both of us to stick with tradition and not see each other until I walk down the aisle. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with doing a first look if it suits both of you, but I personally wouldn’t do it just for the sake of having enough time for photos (especially if you don’t care too much about them). If your photographer is good, he should be able to take all the photos you want within the shorter time frame. If you decide not to do a first look, just make sure you help him out by giving him a must-take photo list at least a few days before the wedding, and make sure anyone who needs to stick around for photos after the ceremony knows about that beforehand, so no time is wasted trying to track them down. 🙂 Best of luck making your decision!!
Post # 3
We did a first look, and I couldn’t be happier. The shots our photographer got are priceless. I’m glad we did the first look because it was fun, for one thing, and for another, we got more pictures than we would have if I only had x amount of time to get down the aisle and have DH’s reaction captured.
For the record, my husband was far more emotional during the ceremony than the first look. He was definitely blown away the first look, but our vows and the rest of the ceremony were just amazing. I can add some pictures from both when I get to my computer, if you’d like.
Post # 4
We didn’t. Neither one of us wanted to because we’re both pretty traditional. At first I was trying to be logical about fitting in more time for pictures but honestly I don’t like how first-look photo sessions are. I think they’re incredibly cheesy and overdone. I think it’s more powerful when your groom sees your whole sillouette walking down the aisle to meet him for the first time. Also I like more candid instead of staged photos and our photographer did a good job doing this for us all day. Good luck.
Post # 5
We did, and I’m very glad. It just wouldnt have worked with our schedule to do it after, and due to some unforseen circumstances, if we had planned to do the ceremony first, then we probably wouldnt have gotten ANY posed pictures at all.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - hotel
We didn’t do a first look, but I think that maybe a cultural difference. In the UK it’s pretty much unheard of(I think) and is something slowly filtering over from America. Both ideas are really romantic, I mean your fi seeing you for the first time as a bride will always be a special moment.
l will say though, we had a very cheap inexperienced photographer and while he caught my husband’s reaction perfectly. We didn’t have enough time for photos after and it was a bit rushed. I hate having my photo taken so it suited me fine, but others might have been disappointed. It comes.down to your priorities in the end
Post # 7
- Wedding: Rocky Mountains-May 2017
My SO is the opposite as far as he would only tear up if there weren’t people wayching him. I told him he better cry or I’m leaving lol so we’re planning on a first look
Post # 8
We didn’t want to do a first look, so the first time DH saw me was walking down the aisle. But he is probably the least romantic person in the world and has a terrible memory, so he barely even remembers it now. It’s kind of sad actually.
Post # 9
Lol I feel like this is my Fiance. He loves me dearly but I don’t think he’s ever been the type that is “blown away” and he has an awful memory too.
Post # 10
would love to see those photos!
Post # 11
Even though doing a first look is actually the traditional way of doing things where I’m from (bride and groom meet before the ceremony and walk down the aisle together), we’ve decided to go the “non-traditional” route and have my dad walk me down the aisle with my Fiance then seeing me for the first time. While I don’t think that a first look is necessarily less emotional (my sister’s first look was a huge cry fest!), but I have always loved the idea of meeting him at the altar.
Post # 12
We didn’t do a first look. What I will say about it is that I would have been MUCH less nervous and less emotional during the ceremony if we had done a first look, but waiting until the walk down the aisle made for a super special moment. The reaction on my husband’s face was priceless, and I don’t think he would have reacted that way in a first look (I think we only the cameras on him he would have felt too forced to react rather than be in the moment), and my guests enjoyed being able to share in that moment.
Post # 13
We didn’t do a “first-look.” But we did get all our photos out of the way before the wedding. We aren’t big on traditions. Plus, the usual concept of first looks where the photographer sets up an elaborate scene for the bride to tap the groom on the shoulder just seems awkward to me.
I actually got ready with my husband. Which turned out really nice and I wouldn’t have had it any other way. Plus some of the pictures of us helping each other get ready turned out very sweet. So we sort of got photos of us seeing each other but it certainly wasn’t a usual first look.
I think your fiance will be emotional as you walk down the aisle toward him regardless of whether he’s already seen you in your dress or not. Its a big moment for you and him. That said, I highly recommend doing the photos before the ceremony. We spent about an hour doing our photos and thirty minutes doing family photos. Once the ceremony started, we had no other responsibilities but to enjoy our guests and have fun. The reception will already fly by and you’ll barely get to spend time with anyone…running off to take photos for an hour or two would just make it that much shorter.
Post # 14
We had a first look and it worked out really well.
We were able to get most of our photos before the ceremony so we got to enjoy time with family and friends after. Nothing was rushed, we had tons of time. (After the ceremony everyone wanted to catch up so we had no time alone!) Also, it helped ease my nerves. I felt so comfortable! The ceremony was still meaningful and exciting, but it felt like it was more about us.
Post # 15
- Wedding: Hawksnest Cove Beach St John USVI
we didn’t do a first look (no time At all for it) and I had mixed emotions. We had a small group at our wedding and no bridal party so group shots and time after the wedding wasn’t a huge concern. I just let the photographer know that I really wanted his expression captured on film when he first saw me. It’s one of my favorite photos (he kept saying wow – no tears even though he’s pretty emotional) and I love it. No regrets!!