- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 1997
If you think that your FI/DH seeing you walk down the aisle for the first time will have a bigger impact, then don’t let anyone (including him!) tell you that you have to do a “first look”. We did not do a first look, in part because they had not yet thought up the catchy name for getting pictures done before the ceremony, so it never occurred to us. Still, I wouldn’t have wanted it. I think that if the two of you want to do it and feel that it would be more emotional or impactful than seeing each other walking down the aisle, then that’s the only good reason to have one. It is NOT worth it if you are pressured into it just for the sake of convenience.
Additionally, I think everyone is a little tense before the ceremony, just wanting to make sure everything goes smoothly. That leads to different expressions and demeanors in before vs after ceremony pictures, IMO. This may not be true for everyone, but it has definitely been true for most weddings I have seen. Pictures after the ceremony allow for everyone – not just the bride and groom – to be more relaxed. We had all the bride and bridesmaids and pictures of just me and my family and all the groom and groomsmen and pictures of just him and his family taken before the ceremony. All photos combining the two families or of the whole wedding party were taken afterwards. We had countless photos taken and it did not take that long. A good photographer knows the shots to get and how to keep things moving well.