(Closed) Did you do a first look or not?

posted 7 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: How did your husband first see you on your wedding day?

    First look

    Walking down the aisle


  • Post # 16
    7846 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    If you think that your FI/DH seeing you walk down the aisle for the first time will have a bigger impact, then don’t let anyone (including him!) tell you that you have to do a “first look”. We did not do a first look, in part because they had not yet thought up the catchy name for getting pictures done before the ceremony, so it never occurred to us. Still, I wouldn’t have wanted it. I think that if the two of you want to do it and feel that it would be more emotional or impactful than seeing each other walking down the aisle, then that’s the only good reason to have one. It is NOT worth it if you are pressured into it just for the sake of convenience.

    Additionally, I think everyone is a little tense before the ceremony, just wanting to make sure everything goes smoothly. That leads to different expressions and demeanors in before vs after ceremony pictures, IMO. This may not be true for everyone, but it has definitely been true for most weddings I have seen. Pictures after the ceremony allow for everyone – not just the bride and groom – to be more relaxed. We had all the bride and bridesmaids and pictures of just me and my family and all the groom and groomsmen and pictures of just him and his family taken before the ceremony. All photos combining the two families or of the whole wedding party were taken afterwards. We had countless photos taken and it did not take that long. A good photographer knows the shots to get and how to keep things moving well. 

    Post # 17
    495 posts
    Helper bee

    I am a traditional type of girl, so did not to a first look, and don’t regret it at all.  I’m happy my husband saw me for the first time walking downh the aisle.  There is something special about doing that, that so many people have done before!  If you are traditional, you possibly will regret it if you do do a first look.  if you are worried about the photographer capturing his expression, mak sure you tell them beforehand, and maybe get someone else in the front row to take photos of him too! Or set a video camera up!

    Post # 18
    335 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    We’re skipping the first look. We, too, were originally concerned with the time for photos and DID consider it before. We decided to have me walk down the aisle & are both very content with our decision. We felt like we’d regret the first look & didn’t want our emotions to be “staged” by having paid for a first look to “capture his emotions/save time with photography”. To have time for photographs, we decided:

    -have the wedding party arrive at the venue at a designated time
    -have two shooters-one for each of us & our parties
    -have me & the girls take our photos
    -have him & the guys take theirs
    -After the ceremony, have family & both parties join us for a few group photos then have them to “entertain” the guests at the reception until we finish our couple’s photos

    We’re also having a videographer

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