(Closed) Did you do a first look?

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
614 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I REALLY wanted the first time my groom saw me was walking down the aisle, but I also REALLY wanted our reception to start directly after the ceremony so I had to budge! 

We decided to do a first look and I am so so so glad we did! It was a special moment with just us (and our bridal party that got to watch) and it literally washed all my stress away. We were able to go and get all of our pictures (family and bridal party) done before the ceremony, that way we didnt have a big break in between ceremony and reception! It also didnt make walking down the aisle to my future husband any less special!

I say go for it if you want to get some pictures done early! It was worth it to me and it better not be “bad luck!” =)

Post # 3
893 posts
Busy bee

We did it. But we aren’t traditional. We didn’t want to have to lave our own party for pictures so we wanted to get many of them done in advance. We also did all the family photos before the ceremony too.

We also slept in over in the same hotel room and basically got ready together too. Lol. My husband had surgery 5 days before our wedding and needed help with some things getting dressed. He did see me before the “first look” but it was the first time he saw me in the dress. 

Post # 4
2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

We did a first look it was great 🙂

Post # 5
228 posts
Helper bee

We didn’t, but I wouldn’t have minded doing it.  My husband vetoed the idea, though — he’s pretty traditional.  As long as you’re Fiance is on board, go for it!  It definitely makes the timeline go more smoothly in most cases.

Post # 6
6877 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

We did it.  It helped my husband relax a little before the real ordeal of photos began.  I wanted to change it up a bit from what you generally see online by having him come to me instead of the other way around.  Unfortunately he feels a bit stalkerish in the photos – they didn’t turn out super for us.  I think in hindsight it should have been set up differently than it was, but that’s a photographer issue.  I’m still happy we did it so he’d look better in all the other photos – he does not like that kind of attention!

There is no bad luck in seeing each other – you love each other, have already met, no one is going to change their mind and run away, and it helps you to be more relaxed at the ceremony itself.  It didn’t stop him from having a great look on his face at the wedding as well.  We actually hung out all day long – we held a lunch reception several hours before the ceremony, so we sure weren’t hiding!

Post # 7
2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We did a first look, and I’m so happy we did. It was a really nice bit of time to ourselves, without the stress and chaos. We walked down the aisle together, so we’d have seen each other regardless. 

Post # 8
1806 posts
Buzzing bee

We thought about it but our timeline was as such that it would have been tight to work in that extra time. I was getting ready quite literally right up to the minute before my ceremony starting. I wouldn’t have minded, though–I think it would have calmed my nerves.

Plus, after thinking about it some, my husband decided he wanted to see me for the first time walking down the aisle. So that was that!

Post # 9
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I am exactly the same as you — always wanted that traditional moment down the aisle, but I realized that a first look is actually way more special and more intimate! We’re doing it and all my friends have.


Here’s why it’s a great idea — and why you should feel great about it:

1) He gets to see you for the first time in private, not with hundreds of people staring at you. You can kiss, hug, take each other in. You cannot do that at the altar. 
2) Your make-up and hair will be at their best and perfectly fresh for photos

3) It gets some of the nerves and jitters out. You see each other and have a few special moments together.

4) ALL my friends said it’s still super emotional and special when you walk down the aisle, even though he has already seen you. They all still cried! 

5) It’s SO much easier for your timeline, to get all the photos you need, so immediately after the ceremony you can enjoy yourself and enjoy the party!

Post # 10
3310 posts
Sugar bee

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futuremrscobs:  I’m in the same boat as you, and honestly, we’ve decided to do the first look so we can enjoy most of cocktail hour with our guests, and not running around with the bridal party having photos taken. At the end of the day, the photos are forever and I’d rather make sure we’re not in a rush to have them done on the day.

Post # 11
2257 posts
Buzzing bee

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futuremrscobs:  I did it and I am so glad I did. All the nervousness was abated by seeing each other in private first. When I did walk down the aisle, I still got butterflies, and it was still special, because it was different. Don’t sweat it. We both needed to be a mess alone, away from prying eyes.

I will say, don’t let anyone know you’re doing a first look. My DH’s aunt found out about the first look, and she didn’t understand the concept. She thought we were getting MARRIED before the CEREMONY…. So they showed up an hour and a half earlier than everyone else, and they saw me in my dress. We had the house to ourselves until that moment, so I didn’t think I needed to go upstairs until then.

So yeah, there’s bound to be someone who thinks they’re missing something and will show up early. Maybe

Post # 13
4038 posts
Honey bee

We didn’t – marrried late 1970s – but wish we did. We missed our entire cocktail hour, taking photos. I don’t even know what was served. It’s not like we would have dropped dead on the spot, if my husband had seen me beforehand. I’m not into traditions in the least – even less for superstitions like seeing the bride, before she walks down the aisle. .

Both my daughters did first looks and thinks it’s one of the smartest decisions they made. Along with having unplugged ceremonies, not inviting kids, …

Post # 14
18 posts

I was in a wedding where the bride and groom did a “first touch,” instead of a first look. That might be something you can consider if you don’t want the groom to see you before you walk down the aisle. 

Post # 15
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

My wedding is in October and we are planning on doing a first look as well.  It just makes sense for us.  FI was against it at first but after we met with photographers they pretty much convinced us it is a really great thing that many many people do nowadays.  I am SO happy we are doing it.  I already have anxiety about the day so whatever can help me feel more at ease that day I’m all for.  Plus, we’re having a mac n’ cheese bar during out cocktail hour and there is no way I want to miss out on that.  Doing the first look allows me to eat all the mac n cheese I want! 

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