Did you/do you prefer SO to ask for your parents blessing? Religious or not?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 31
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1257 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

I told my FH is was up to him to decide whether or not he wanted to talk to my parents before proposing. He ended up calling them to let them know what he was planning. It was more of a respect thing & letting them know how excited he is to join the family than an asking for permission/blessing thing.

Post # 32
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10387 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I would be more on board with this  blessing thing ( NOT permssion however   ) if it was soemething both people  asked of their fi’s parents.  It never is of course , it  is  some archaic  notion of the  woman’s  ‘hand in marriage” .

It’s often phrased euphemistically  as ‘respect’  – offered presumably by the man to the woman’s  parents…a respect not on  offer to  his  parents then ? 

Post # 33
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Newbee
  • Wedding: City, State

I’ve never liked this tradition. He’s marrying me, not my family, and I’m the one who decides when and who I marry. He only needs to ask me, and the only approval he needs is mine.

 

 

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