Post # 31
I told my FH is was up to him to decide whether or not he wanted to talk to my parents before proposing. He ended up calling them to let them know what he was planning. It was more of a respect thing & letting them know how excited he is to join the family than an asking for permission/blessing thing.
Post # 32
I would be more on board with this blessing thing ( NOT permssion however ) if it was soemething both people asked of their fi’s parents. It never is of course , it is some archaic notion of the woman’s ‘hand in marriage” .
It’s often phrased euphemistically as ‘respect’ – offered presumably by the man to the woman’s parents…a respect not on offer to his parents then ?
Post # 33
I’ve never liked this tradition. He’s marrying me, not my family, and I’m the one who decides when and who I marry. He only needs to ask me, and the only approval he needs is mine.