I never had a vision of a ring. I never really wore rings, never looked at rings, just not something I thought about or worried about at all!
When I had a ringless proposal, we went looking and I still did not know what I wanted. I kind of wanted something “flowy” – whatever that meant! I tried on what seemed liked tons of rings at many stores and just nothing ever spoke to me, except for a couple rather interesting rose and yellow gold rings (without or with small stones) made by an independent designer. But, I was not sold on them. I kinda figured out rather early on that I was not very set on a diamond at all, at least not a modern cut or very colourless one. Also learned I did not really like halos for my own hand.
Never could figure something out before the wedding (and we had a short engagement so there was only so much time!), so just ordered a right hand ring to wear as a wedding ring (totally my pick). It was white gold, with some diamond pave, and a small blue pear sapphire (since many women in my family have worn sapphires), in a crossover style. I decided a couple months later was uncomfortable and not something I really liked. I did not like how thin the actual bands making up the ring were, was never happy with the centre stone (size, colouring, cut) or the pave. Realized I did not like pave at all! It just was not ME. Plus I was getting a nickel allergy!
Here is my original wedding band (the one on top is mine, other one is my husbands which he LOVES):
Changed it to a solitaire set with scattered diamond bands, blue sapphire centre, palladium white gold. Totally my pick and I had it specifically designed and made however I was influenced by my husband expressing a desire they still “matched” his rings. Turns out palladium causes issues for me too (not many people have this, I do). Which was okay, as I was never head over heels for the rings either. Too modern. Realized I also did not like white metals (never wore white metals until my wedding, had always been yellow!) or prong settings (as wonderful as my prongs were done). My husband never liked these ones anyway, so it was easy to agree to change them and he wanted me to have WHATEVER I wanted (even if not matching) as long as I loved them as much as he loved his ring!
This was my second set:
By this point I totally knew what I wanted, and it is totally what I got too.
I ended up with brushed yellow gold, a bezeled centre stone, scattered diamonds, chunky, a moissanite OEC, and a totally untraditional organic and natural style.
This is my very much adored (by my husband and me both!), very much me, and my forever set:
So, took me about 2 1/2 years, but I got there eventually!