- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 1998
Yes – but in my situation, it meant picking my SIL, Future Sister-In-Law, and my cousin’s wife (who is, of the 3, the only one I’m friends with). I didn’t want a whole gang of people standing up there. Honestly, I think the wedding party is basically useless – it’s a kind gesture, but unless you’re going for all the bells and whistles, they don’t really do that much.
I skipped the wedding party. It was a great decision and resulted in very little drama. My Future Mother-In-Law did ask my husband behind my back what was ‘wrong’ and why I wasn’t picking a wedding party (i.e., “Why isn’t she asking my beloved daughter to be her Maid of Honor?”). Uh, your daughter is an attention-seeking drama whore and I can’t stand dealing with her. In less cruel language, “Because I want to be fair to everyone and we want to keep the wedding small…”
As the wedding grew closer, I felt ‘vibes’ coming from his family and contacted my Future Sister-In-Law directly to explain my decision. She did surprise me with, “I don’t blame you for not having a wedding party. Means you’re smart.” Though I dislike her, I can at least give her credit where credit is due. That was big of her.