(Closed) Did you Fi ask you dad for your hand?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Did your fiance ask your father for your hand in marriage?
    Yes : (486 votes)
    64 %
    No : (274 votes)
    36 %
    I don't know : (3 votes)
    0 %
  • Post # 3
    609 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2009

    Darling Husband asked my Dad and my mom. He snuck out of work early to go to their office and ask them. He told them he hadnt told anyone so he would like to keep it a secret until it happened-my dad looked at my mom who was crying and said-YOU BETTER NOT RUIN THIS! that part makes me laugh.

    What i think it the cutest part-is my parents have known him for year and they said they have never seen him so nervous. i think that is adorable!

    i love stuff like this.

    Post # 4
    1458 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Aww that’s so sweet ๐Ÿ™‚

    Yep, Fiance asked my dad! They actually plotted the whole proposal together so it would be at dinner with all of my close family there. I couldn’t believe they kept the secret from me! But I am glad he had my dad’s approval, even though I was pretty sure he didn’t need to ask because my whole family just loves Fiance.

    Post # 5
    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Such an adorable story ๐Ÿ™‚ and yes Fiance asked my dad before… he knew it was really important to me and I knew my dad would appreciate the respect.


    Post # 6
    419 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    my Fiance asked my mom and dad!

    Post # 7
    515 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens

    We got engaged in Las Vegas, and the night before we left for the trip, SO insisted on going out to the mall to get a garment bag for our dressy clothes. It took him way longer than it should have, and he hates malls, so I should have been suspicious. 


    It turns out that his real motive for going out that night was to swing by my parents house and ask for their blessing when he proposed a couple of days later and show them the ring.

    Post # 8
    3624 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My Darling Husband asked my dad while we were there for xmas one year! He showed him the ring and everything.

    Post # 9
    5011 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I told him in no uncertain terms that if he asked my dad that I would say “no”. I said if he had to ask anyone he should ask my Grandma (who gave me her ring) but really he should just ask me.

    Post # 10
    1415 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Wow, surprising how many bees have said “yes” to this! Glad to see this tradition is alive and well. Very sweet.

    Post # 11
    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Nope. Didn’t even cross either of our minds. Why would I need my dad’s permission/blessing? He doesn’t own me. I’m a big girl, I can make my own decision regardless of what my dad thinks.

    Post # 12
    5371 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada โ™ฅ EDD- April 2016

    We aren’t engaged yet but he said that when the time comes he doesn’t want to do it without talking to my mom and dad first (:

    Post # 13
    2759 posts
    Sugar bee

    I don’t have a father to ask, but he also didn’t “consult” anyone in my family. We talked about marriage together, and I actually proposed to him. After we got engaged, we told both of our families and made sure they were accepting and happy about it before we went public. It’s not that if either had been upset/said no we would have listened, but we definitely wanted everyone to be happy and understand why we were getting engaged.

    Post # 14
    3182 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    No and I would have been upset if he had.  We had discussed before but it went something like this . . .

    Me – “you know if I ever found out you did that I would just say no”

    Fiance – “yeah why would I do that”

    Post # 15
    656 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    he asked my parents. he was more afraid to ask them then he was to ask me lol

    Post # 16
    899 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We custom made my engagement ring from two of my grandmother’s ring, so we all (FI, me, and my parents) were aware than an “offical” engagement was coming. My Fiance didn’t ask for permission or ask my dad for my hand, but he did call them the morning  he proposed to tell then he was going to ask. 

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