- 2 years ago
Hi Bees! I am 30 and have been single for the past year and a half. Prior to that I was in a 5 year relationship that ended when he cheated. I’ve made a lot of effort to better myself and spend time alone, but do feel I was left with a few trust issues that I continue to work through. I’ve been on Match for about 6 months, but have yet to even go on a date. I find most men who message me are over 40, send very odd messages, or are clearly just looking to hook up. While I have no judgement against an age gap, I’m just confused as to why nobody closer to my age seems interested. And I am also not looking to just hook up. I have a career, I’m independent, have great friends and family, not horrible looking (I think – lol) so I do feel I have a lot to offer the right person. I’ve tried messaging men who seem interesting/ are in my age bracket, but usually get little response. It’s feeling a little hopeless.
Am I doing something wrong? I’m pretty happy single, but want to share life with someone and eventually have kids. I’ve got my own life and hobbies which I take joy in. But how do I balance this with finding someone, and not become completely discouraged by this process? Any insight or success stories, would be great!