Post # 47
Honestly, I’d never heard of a promise ring before I got onto wedding message boards. And I still don’t see the point. An engagement ring is supposed to indicate that you promise to get married, so what’s a promise ring? A promise that you will promise to get married?
Then again, we didn’t even have engagement rings. A wedding ring was enough for each of us.
Post # 48
No choice for me: NO and I have an engagement ring and I’m getting married in 5 weeks.
we were engaged for 1.5 years
By the time we are married we are together for 10 years.
Post # 49
Love reading all these stories 🙂
Post # 50
I’m just picky because I’ve been given “promise jewelry” in past relationships and to me I only wanted a ring when it was time to talk marriage.
Post # 51
Yup, Fiance gave me a promise ring when we were 15 after we had been dating for about 6 months. It wasn’t fancy, just a plain silver band with a tiny decoration on it, but I still wear it on my right hand. 10 years later he proposed 🙂
Post # 52
I’m married and never got a promise ring. I never harped on DH about getting one either because I felt they were more for high schoolers.
Post # 53
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent\'s backyard
with my college BF, we got matching plain silver bands as promise rings. I bought them as a birthday gift for him, because we had just gotten back together and I wanted him to feel secure about our relationship, and I was trying to use the rings as a reminder of how much I love him and should try to stick with him. it didn’t really work — I broke up with him again about two months later. so much for my promise :/
for the record, it’s been over a decade since then and I’m really glad we didn’t get married. what a disaster that would have been.
Post # 54
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
Yup he gave it to me as a promise ring and later proposed with it but eventually bought me an engagement ring.
Post # 55
My Fiance and I started dating when we were 17. A year and a few months in we were in our first year of college at different schools, and he gave me the promise ring for Christmas. I ended up transferring to a school closer to him, fast forward 6 1/2 more years and a cross country move together and we are finally engaged. When I first got the promise ring people kept asking if it was an engagement ring, I loved it and I loved him but I was like, nope this isn’t near big enough! lol Got my big rock now though.
Post # 57
Never got a promise ring, even after my hinting at one =) Really all I wanted was some sort of jewelry, and got an engagement ring instead!
Post # 58
DH and I started dating 12/13/06… a few months later we both got claddaugh promise rings. I wore my claddaugh until he proposed on 7/9/11… then we were married on 10/13/12 🙂
I love seeing the pics side by side because they were taken almost 6 years apart 🙂
Post # 59
@alotlikelove: I feel like promise rings are for high school kids and seem very juvenile. My current Fiance didn’t give me one, but my past Fiance did (in his defense, we were juveniles and in high school and he did select a real engagement ring, not a trinket or costume jewellery). He wasn’t ready for an engagement (at that time), but he wanted to promise to be ready to be engaged later (stupid logic in my mind). It was one year into our relationship. With my current Fiance, we were engaged after 3 months.
Post # 60
Started dating when I was 17/he was 16. Engaged at 22/21, no promise ring. Probably for the best. I could see myself being given a ring and (even if momentarily) assuming it was an ering- awkward!
Post # 61
I have a “promise ring” from my now-husband, but it wasn’t presented like that (as a “promise to marry”) or in a cheesy way. It was just a nice gift that said “Hey, I’m taking this relationship seriously”. I had just turned 20 and definitely would not have wanted to be engaged at that point…I wasn’t ready for that at all. It was just a situation where he wanted to buy me a nice piece of jewelry, so we went out and chose something together.
That’s just me, though. I could see how a “promise ring” would seem pretty insulting/a slap in the face to a woman who was ready to be engaged, though! There’s no purpose in giving a promise ring at that point.