Post # 1
So I know the question is coming, and my current coping mechanism to keep from going crazy is thinking about the stuff I can control, including the nice things I’ll get to do for him throughout this process (his wedding band, etc.). One idea that’s popped up is having an engagement gift for him afterward just to show my love in return (not that saying “yes” doesn’t do that in itself and I don’t try my best to show him daily, but I like this idea too). I’ve thought of things ranging from a male engagement ring (breaking tradition a bit), a nice engraved watch, or the more out there one I thought of today is a PS4. I found a great deal on one and he’s been talking about getting one for a few years. Video games can sometimes be a point of contention, as I often see them as a waste of time but at the same time I acknowledge it’s what he does to take a mental break and relax. Part of me thinks it might be superficial, but another part thinks it’s something he’s wanted for a really long time and I’ve at times given him flack about, so it could also be a cute way to say “look, I love you waaayyy more than the games annoy me.” Lol. I’m just wondering if anyone else has taken this approach with giving a gift after you get engaged, what you gave, and what you’re thoughts are.
Post # 2
We met in Germany (neither one of us German) and the common joke was that a man either brings back a coockoo clock or a wife from Germany
So I got him an orginal (but mordern) coockoo clock “so he wouldn’t miss out” on anything.
Post # 3
Haha. Yes. I gave him this:
Post # 4
I got him a Switch… I knew he wanted one and I was right. 😝
Post # 5
I think the PS4 is a great idea. You know he’ll get a lot of use out if it. My fiancé is a big gamer as well, and sometimes we’ll play on his PS4 or Switch together. We enjoy it since it’s something else we can do together. After he proposed, I gave him an engagement ring I ordered off Etsy. Unfortunately it was a little too tight so we’re waiting on the replacement to arrive.
Post # 7
I think an engagement gift is a great idea! I asked my husband if he wanted an engagement ring and he said he didn’t and it didn’t even occur to me to see if he wanted anything else! *Facepalm!*
My husband is a gamer too and the PS4 sounds like a great gift as it’s personal and you know he’s wanted one for ages. I do think you need to be careful if you do get it as he might want to buy games for it and play it a lot given he’s wanted one for so long and if that’s been an area of contention then you might want to consider that before buying one! To me if you get him one it says that you respect his gaming hobby and are now in support of it, rather than it annoys you but you love him way more.
Is just something to think about I guess. I love that my husband’s a gamer rather than a sports fanatic and he’s even gotten me into gaming a bit and I actually am better at playing Skyrim than he is! 😂
On the other hand gaming consoles get fazed out and a watch is something he’ll be able to keep and use forever. Maybe you could get both, one as an engagement and the other as a morning of the wedding gift?
Post # 8
The PS4 is a nice idea. Fiance is a gamer, I got the ring, he upgraded his PC (which meant an upgrade for mine as well, I got his old parts).
Post # 9
I bought my SO an engagement ring. He is the more stylish of the two of us (and gets to dress “nicer” for work) so I felt silly that I was getting a lovely ring and he wasn’t!
Post # 10
The more I think of the sentiment behid the thought, the more I love it. No matter what happens in life, who is there to disappoint, or when times get hard, my SO is always there for me.
Post # 11
Shortly after getting engaged I told my fiance that I wanted him to have something too, so he is currently in the process of choosing a watch. He has a couple of nice watches that are designer brands (Mondaine and Michael Kors) but he wants to pick a really timeless (pardon the pun) luxury one that is something like Tag Heuer, that he will keep forever and is really special. I like the PS4 idea but I think for us personally we want his gift to be something that won’t date and he won’t want to upgrade or replace at some point. But he is a gamer so I totally appreciate that idea and think it’s a great one!!!!!
Post # 12
Fiance still makes noise about getting a drone in return for a ring to which I always reply “what are you talking about I’m the gift”
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2020 - New Hampshire
I’m going to get him a new watch!
Post # 14
I got my fiancé a watch he would never buy himself.
Post # 15
Great idea! My bf doesn’t wear jewelry (except for his future wedding band)…but I’m thinking a nice wallet, I write down in my phone’s note section whenever he mentions he needs something new so I can surprise him down the line. He has the ring and we’re going to Hawaii next week *fingers crossed* while still having no expectations!
@bluecandy: The Switch is also an awesome idea