(Closed) Did you get married and have children in your late twenties or early thirties?

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  • Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Fiance and I started dating when I was 28 and I’ll be 31 when we get married in August. I would never have been ready to get married before now (I STILL feel like there’s so much I want to do!) We’re not sure about kids, but we know that if we do indeed decide to have them, it wouldn’t be for another 4 or 5 years and we’d only have two at the most. I couldn’t imagine having been married with kids in my 20s. My whole life would have been different and I would have been absolutely miserable. I had so much freedom and did whatever I wanted; something I could have never done with kids and a husband.

    Post # 17
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    We got engaged when I was 29, married at 30. I’ll be having our first child in a couple of weeks and I’m 31 now. There was nothing more I wanted in life than to be a mother, so I just waited till I met the right guy to start a family with.

    Post # 18
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I’ll be married this summer at 32, and hope to have my first child at 33 (so by December 2017). I’d like to have one more, fairly soon after, so probably done having kids by 36. 

    I spent my twenties finishing school, traveling, and also trying to figure out what my core values and goals were.  I did have a longterm partner but thank goodness we didn’t get married – instead of having to go through a divorce, we simply went our separate ways when we realized we were no longer the same people we were at 21, and the only thing holding us together was sheer force of will. Relationships are work, but they shouldn’t be ONLY work. 

    I feel no sense of shame or regret for marrying in my 30s.  I know very few people 45+ who married young who are still on their first marriage. I always wanted to wait until the right time, no rushing.

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    We started dating when I was 21, engaged when I was 23 (almost 24), married when I was 25…now I am 26 (almost 27) and we are TTC.

    Post # 20
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    DH and I started dating when I was 23, but did’t marry till I was 29. We wanted to finish school and become established. I am 30 and we are TTC. My mom had me at 38, but I do not want to wait that long. I grew up in the north and all my small town friends were married at 20 and have four kids now. My friends from college and my job were all married older and most just started to have kids (around 32). 

    Post # 21
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012 - El Faro Convention center, Aguadilla, Puerto Rico

    We started dating 18, got married right out of college at 22/23 and we knew we wanted to wait a few years to establish our careers, buy a house and travel. 

    In our first year of marriage we bought our house (OH has low cost of living + we moved in with friends for most of that year to save $). In our second year of marriage we saved + furnished said house and then traveled ALOT in our 3rd year of marriage. We started TTC on our 3rd anniversary and our baby is due a week before our 4th (We’ll be 26/27)

    Post # 22
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    We got engaged when I was 29, married at 30, and we had our first baby at 31.  DS is 7 months old.   If all goes well, we’ll be planning to have our second when I am 33.  DH is older by 4 years. 

    Post # 23
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    Bee Keeper

    I got married at 34.  I wouldn’t call it the ‘best’ time necessarily – I was chomping at the bit for a few years before that.  But I think 30ish is a good age for it – you’re settled from college years, hopefully have a solid career and some money in the savings account – all good things to have before getting married.  I haven’t gotten to the kid part but hoping to start this summer!  I would NOT wait as long as I had to for kids though if you’re married already.  I work in pediatric health and am mildly terrified at the things that could happen by waiting late to have children (not that bad things necessarily do happen, but the risks definitely increase with age).

    Post # 24
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Started dating at 24, knew we were going to get married a couple years in, but nothing official. Had our (unplanned) daughter at 28 and also got married at 28. 

    We were definitely planning on waiting at least a few more years, but oh well! Happy with how things turned out. 

    Post # 25
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    Sugar bee

    We are getting married in our late 20s this June (age 28) and will start TTC in late 2017 around my 30th birthday. Late 20s is the perfect time to get married and early 30s is the perfect time for babies, IMO.

    Post # 26
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I was 24 when I got married, I’m 29 now and expecting our first child in June.

    Post # 27
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    Helper bee

    briaharris23: Maybe don’t give out your full name on a website. (Unless it’s a pseudonym?)

    I got married very young, at 18. I’m 27 now and we still don’t have kids, and we’re pretty sure we won’t.

    I’d say there is “best time” for everyone, excepting biological constraints on fertility if you do want children.

    Post # 28
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    Late twenties, early thirties is best. I had our first child at 28.  I’m 48 now and tell my children 21, 16 and 15 that these days early thirties is good.  By 29/30 you have a since of direction and more or should be stable to bring on the next generation. I also tell them a college education, travel, buying their own property is a definite accomplishment to achieve before settling down and getting married. This way they have invested on thier own and on a great journey to success. When married, they can invest in property together, but that main property as thier own will always be thiers if needed later to rent out as property owners. 

    Post # 29
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

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    sissimi:  I love that! 

    Late tweinties, early thirties is best. I had our first child at 28. I’m 48 now and tell my children 21, 16 and 15 that these days early thirties is good. By 29/30 you have a since of direction and more or should be stable to bring on the next generation. I also tell them a college education, travel, buying their own property is a definite accomplishment to achieve before settling down and getting married. This way they have invested on thier own and on a great journey to success. When married, they can invest in property together, but that main property as thier own will always be thiers if needed later to rent out as property owners.

     

    Post # 30
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    briaharris23:  My DH and I started dating when we were 17, got engaged when we were 23, bought a house when we were 25, and got married when we were 26. We were married 1 year before TTC. I am now 8 weeks and 3 days pregnant and I’m 28 and so is he. I always thought I would get married and have kids by the time I was 25, but it just didn’t work out that way. 

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