Post # 1
My boyfriend has ordered my ring (yay!) and I assume he will be popping the question soon (I hope)! I told him I don’t need a fancy proposal, my only requests were that I had makeup on and my hair not in a messy bun, and someone there to take pictures during it all.
But tonight he said he’s stressing about the pictures part because he would rather it just be us two there.
after thinking about it, I think that would be okay, he could just bring along a selfie stick or a tripod to take pictures afterwards (he takes his backpack everywhere with him so he could easily hide it in there without me knowing).
what do you guys think of this? Will I regret not having pictures of him actually proposing? What was your proposal like? Did you have pictures during the proposal or just afterwards?
Post # 2
You don’t need a picture of the moment. Sure, it’s cool when people have that, but the way you’re talking about it is so staged. It was just my fiancé and I and we took a selfie that is now very dear to me! It’s a Live Photo which was really cool because it caught how happy we were.
Post # 3
We were walking and it was raining when he got down on one knee.
We took a few selfies on his phone. We went out that night (he had booked a room in a nearby city) and took some pics.
Post # 4
I don’t understand the need for a photo of it. My husband proposed and no pictures were taken which is totally okay. I can picture it easily in my head and find the staged engagement photos rather tacky. Live in the moment not for the photo op
Post # 5
To be completely honest, whenever I see pictures of the guy on one knee, I assume it’s staged for their engagement session. It never looks quite natural, because it’s not!
At first, I, too wanted the actual moment to be memorialized, but I look hideous when I cry, and the camera might catch me from a bad angle. I personally prefer that the proposal be done at the moment he feels is right for us, when it’s just the two of us. I eventually told him to just make sure I’ve eaten first so I’m not hangry.
Realistically, if you want the photos, it will have to be a public proposal or you’ll have to find a really stealthy friend.
Post # 6
I was fortunate to have both pictures and videos as his family was there when he proposed. Like you, I also requested that there be someone to take pictures as I can see him but not my own reactions and it’s nice having it in different angles. I do not have pictures of the proposal but we did take a picture together after the proposal with me displaying my ring.
My family lives in another country so it was nice to be able to share it with them.
Post # 7
These are all good points, thanks!
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn
We have pics and a video from our family and friends that were there. Nothing staged and no hired, professional photographers. Personally, I’m really glad we have those special memories.
Post # 9
I’d say forget the photos and let it be a happy natural moment
Post # 10
It was just the two of us when we got engaged. DH set up our iPads to record it, but to be honest we’ve only watched the videos a couple of times. I am glad we have them though.
Post # 11
I have pictures after he proposed. When my FH proposed I barely remembered what he said honestly. I doubt I’d have the mind to take a picture in that moment/wouldn’t want to ruin it. I love the selfie that we took.
Post # 12
We have pictures and it was definitely not staged. Complete surprise to me! His sister was with us and she took the pictures. I was so caught up in the moment I didn’t even realize she was taking pictures but I am so glad we have them.
We also never talked specifics about a proposal beforehand so our situation was a little different. Just let it happen naturally and don’t worry about trying to get pictures.
Post # 13
My husband woke me up from a nap…. I told him to F off. He proposed. I literally looked like a disaster and we have no photos. It was perfect.
Post # 14
I sometimes think people get so caught up in memorializing a moment that they aren’t even really present in the moment. Thinking about taking pictures of the moment instead of just simply looking forward to it seems odd to me, but I guess that’s what internet culture encourages. And if your boyfriend is already finding the idea difficult or stressful, then perhaps you should just enjoy the moment with the two of you. It would be difficult to time tripod photos to catch the actual moment, and taking them afterwards would just be a faked re-enactment.
Post # 15
When my DH proposed he had one of our friends come and take pictures. I didn’t notice him at all until after the proposal. He got a lot of candid pictures that are so precious to us now. One in particular is of him on one knee my back, you can tell we were laughing. I think that’s when I said, “are you sure?” He also surprised me by having my Mother and my cousin there to witness it from afar. They also surprised us later and then everyone left for us to celebrate alone. It was magical.