(Closed) Did you get "that feeling"? (a little long, sorry!)

posted 7 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Did you get that "THIS IS MY DRESS" moment?

    Yes totally!

    Nope, but I loved my dress anyway!

    No I didn't AND I had dress regret.

  • Post # 17
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I didnt get the feeling either! It wasnt one I even saw in a magazine or something before I went to the store, when they put it on I was like wow but it wasnt the feeling, it was just wow because it was a really pretty dress and the way it fit was great. I still tried on 100 more dresses after I found that one because I wasnt sure but kept going back to that one. And I hated the way my dress looked on the model on the website.

    Post # 18
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I totally didn’t get the feeling! In fact, I ended up letting my father choose my dress.  It wasn’t until I got my veil and put the whole look together that there was a day that it was like “OMG IM GETTING MARRIED”.  But that wasn’t until months after I purchased my dress!

    Post # 19
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I think that dress is stunning on you!

    I had a crying moment when I pur my dress on- but I think it was more a release of emotions than anything else!  I had been eyeing my dress for a while before I got engaged and I know my body very well- so I knew it would look good on me.  

    I had nightmare inducing anxiety before dress shopping so I think when I finally got there and put my dress on, it was a huge relief- and I cried.  It was the first dress I put on, but I didn’t want to be too hasty.  I tried on three other dresses as well.  They all looked good on me (Like I said, I know my body) so I just started to get confused.

    Sometimes I think maybe I chose too quickly, although I don’t have dress regret- I still get giddy when I look at pictures of it!

    If you KNOW it’s your dress- just go for it!  You don’t NEED to cry for it to be the one!

    As a side note: I once cried watching cake boss so it’s really no surprise that I cried trying on dresses! lol

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    First dress I thought, oh no, I can’t gain an ounce–then proceeded to worry about that for two years.  By the time I tried it on for alterations I actually hated it, I’d been in the yoke of its fit for so long.

    Second dress I remember staring at the mirror thinking, wow, this works on me, I never would have thought it would.  FI’s really going to like it.  I felt slim and fit and womanly.

    I’m not someone who wears dresses often generally–maybe two or three times a year–and I think that can influence how you feel about a dress, if you’re not used to seeing yourself in one.

    Post # 21
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I didn’t get an overwhelming emotional reaction, but I did feel happy and confident with my decision. It felt right and definitely better than the others that I tried.

    Post # 22
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I didn’t cry. But I’m not much of a crying type…I laugh when I’m nervous lol. I laughed through my proposal, I laughed while trying on dresses. I had envisioned a style of dress on me and kept trying on the same styles but something was always missing and never quite right. Then consultant had me try on a completely different style that she picked so I said what the heck, it won’t kill me to try it. I put the dress on looked in the mirror and said “ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME???” And that was my moment haha. my Maid/Matron of Honor cried, my mom cried, I giggled and didn’t want to take it off!

    I can tell you that I work in bridal and I have only seen maybe a handful of brides cry. And only one of those crying brides bought the dress that had them in tears. I think for the rest it was a release of anxiety maybe? Im not sure. Usually the people I see crying are the mothers of both the bride and groom lol. 

    Post # 23
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’m an analytic researcher by trade, so I’m not sure I fit the model of a girl who is going to be overwhelmed by a dress and have any kind of a “dress moment.”

    They’re all very pretty, someone worked very hard on designing them and creating them, and most of them look very expensive. Because of those reasons, most of the dresses are flattering. I found myself picking things apart by tiny degrees (my waist might look a tad smaller in this one but this other one is the color I was looking for, this one needs a fancy new bra to go under it, etc) until more than one saleslady said I did not look like I was having any fun. And I wasn’t, the shopping experience was stressful and since I’ve never “loved” an article of clothing before, I felt great pressure to shop until something happened. Something happens, doesn’t it?

    Well not always. I found many many dresses that were lovely, with attributes of some of the things I was looking for, in all different styles. My last sales lady read my face in the last dress (Wtoo Emerson) and told me to stop thinking about it as an emotional moment that I should have and merely think about whether I’d feel territorial about it if another bride asked to try it on next. Until that point I’d traded dresses with other brides at appointments without thinking much of it, but she was right there were two dresses I would not have wanted to give up. Since those two are incredibly similar in most ways, I put down a deposit on the one that was slightly more flattering, slightly more comfortable, and a lot less expensive – the Wtoo Emerson. Is it perfect? Probably not. Is there one dress in the whole world that would make me cry? I guess it’s possible. Is the stress of carrying around that expectation making my wedding planning less enjoyable?  &$%# yes. So I chucked the money down and checked it off my to-do list. I’ll wear a bridal gown, I’ll be comfortable, I will have easily stuck to my budget, and regardless of what I might look like everyone will say nice things. 

    That just has to be good enough for me!

    Post # 24
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I kept comparing the other dresses to mine. I tried it on serveral times and gave myself time to think. I just knew it was “the one” when I didn’t want to take it off. I loved everything about it and couldn’t think of one thing to change. I didn’t cry I did a happy dance and said let’s do this 🙂

    Post # 25
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @FutureMrsKelly2014:  I never got “that feeling.” Then again I also didn’t cry when DH proposed (though I cried later on after it sunk in), and I didn’t cry at the wedding. Surprisingly I actually am a very emotional person…but I’m also an over analyzer! So sometimes when I’m in a moment where a certain emotion is expected  my thoughts are going a mile a minute like “hmm, I wonder if I’m going to cry. Is this how I’m supposed to feel? Whoa everyone’s watching!” My dress was beautiful and looked amazing on me, but the feeling just never came! But then on the day of the wedding I was looking at myself in the mirror and I knew I had made the right choice. 

    Post # 27
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I never got the butterflies or anything.

     

    When I was dress shopping online though, I kind of figured out that the dress I eventually picked was the right one for me. When I tried it on, I loved it but I didn’t KNOW. My bridesmaids and mother were there though and I think they knew for me. Some burst into tears, one clapped and cheered and another immediately named my gown. Once you name a gown you can’t say no! 😛

    Post # 28
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @FutureMrsKelly2014:  You look gorgeous in it! I didn’t have the whole OMG this is my dress feeling. I had dress regret. everyone is different. 

    Post # 29
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Sort of. I tried on one dress that was way out ofmy price range (Mum’s idea) and loved it, after that with the wedding shopping the other dresses were all jut “hmm this is okay” until I tried on my dress. I didn’t cry or anything (I’m not an emotional person) but I did prance around the shop humming here comes the bride.

    I still really like it, it’s not the £3.5k dress but it’s gorgeous (and more weddingy than that one was.

    Post # 30
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

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    @TwoStatesBride:  This is exactly what I did. Except more to the tune of around 40 dresses.

     

    And then I spontaneously bought a totally different one from the one that ticked all the boxes I’d been looking for. But I didn’t get that feeling – to be honest, I’d have been perfectly happy to wear just about any of the dresses I tried on, they were all beautiful, and even the ones that were totally different from what I was looking for were unexpectedly flattering and fun to wear. At one point I did think I’d be better doing a ‘Don’t Tell the Bride’ and just letting FH pick one for me!

    Post # 31
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I didn’t cry or have any emotional reatction. I thought it made me look amazing and I didn’t want to take it off, and that was enough for me, I was sold.

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