Post # 1
Hi bee’s, I’m feeling a little overwelmed this week. Paying for school out of pocket and the fact that I know I won’t be done by the deadline I’ve given myself (Fall 2014-last semester) because I won’t pass my chem or math classes probably..
Thing is that my S/O is in the Navy and we’re both very ready for the long distance to be over with.. I feel like I should be spending whatever time I have to spend with him between deployments but with school.. I can’t move. (Transferring isn’t possible because I have so many credits.)
When I look at the big picture I realize that I’m basically getting my degree and spending all of this money just to have. I don’t really know if I’ll want to use it because I want to be a stay at home mama and wife. I always thought, hey I’ll get it and then maybe I’ll use it later on but I’m also realizing if I even WANTED to use it.. I’d have to go back after finishing this to obtain a higher degree to get a decent job..
long story short.. I’m just wondering just how many of you don’t have your degree/never finished your degree to have a family/your opinions in general on this.
Post # 3
I voted other. I got my degree in psychology, but I’m not using it. Mine turned out to be kind of a waste = (so far, at least).
Post # 4
I am definitely going to use my degree, because it is a career choice for me. I may choose to go part time or so whenever I have kids in order to stay home with them more. Luckily my job will have the flexibiility to do that (Physical Therapy).
My sister got a degree that is not something she does full time. Now that she has kids (and her husband is in the military) she is a SAHM, but is going back to school to get a degree in nursing as well.
My advice to you is something my mother told me. Education is something that NO ONE can EVER take away from you. Therefore it is always worth it. That being said, my FI did not go to college and has an awesome career, so it’s not always for everyone. But my main advice is, while it sucks (believe me I know, I am in my 6th year of college now), education will always be worth it (as long as you don’t rack up TOO much loans). You never know when you’ll need that degree, and its easiest to get it while youre young, not married, and don’t have kids.
Post # 5
@ohhbitty: Well I got my associates a couple years ago, and had to delay my bachelors for financial reasons but honestly, I am kind of in the same boat as you. I just don’t see a point in it anymore. I know plenty of people with Bachelors that work retail at the mall (i work in a mall Mgmt office which is a GREAT job for someone with an AA). I don’t see why I should get myself into so much debt and stress myself out to work a 40 hour week to take a few night classes and stay in school for minimum another three years. Especially when the night classes are so limited for the nearest state school to my work.
I am not being much help haha. Some people have great careers due to their degree, but I guess it depends on what you are studying. How close are you to finishing? If you have less than a year I would say stick with it.
Post # 6
You never know if you’ll use it or not.. and once you have it, no one can take it away.
I know it’s hard, but you’ll regret not having it. You’re close!
Post # 7
I got my bachelors in two years, and only used it for one year. I then went to law school, and have been using that for 2 years now.
Post # 8
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@ohhbitty: I’m in the process of getting my degree. After this semester, I’ll have 7.5 classes left to take (8, but one of them is a 1 credit hour class, so I count it as a half of a class haha). I’m hoping I’ll get it because I want to work somewhat in my field eventually. I refuse to leave my college without my degree. I’ve been here too long and they have way too much of my money to just leave without anything to show for it.
EDIT: this is just my opinion for me. if I were in your shoes, I’d probably move to wherever your SO is, considering he has a decent job, and especially considering you don’t even know if you like what you’re studying and want to do it. If I was still studying microbiology (which I hated), and was in your situation, I’d move in a heart beat. Especially if it meant being with my SO.
Post # 9
You might be able to complete some of your classes online. Lots of schools these days offer online classes. I finished a lot of my general ed that way, and other classes.
Post # 10
I use my degree! I’m glad I have it!
Post # 11
@Cory_loves_this_girl: +1, ish! I have a degree in psych as well, and although I’m not using it at the moment (I’m in college, lol), I will need it in order to teach at the college level, which is my goal in the next 5 years!
Post # 12
I voted other also. I have a degree but I am not using it. I am in banking but my degree is in business management with a concentration in accounting. But I am glad I didn’t find something in accounting since I see the stress all my friends in accounting have.
Post # 13
I definitely think college isn’t for everyone, and that for some people it’s not the best use of money.
I got my degree in Film, and I have no regrets because it helped me follow my dreams and move to LA. I’m trying to work in my field but it’s very competitive and a degree is way less important than experience. So I’m not actually using my degree. But I didn’t have any reason to reconsider finishing.
In your case, it sounds like the educational path you’re on now might be the wrong one for you. But how soon do you want to start trying to have a family? If something were to happen between you and your SO, I think it’s harder to get back on your feet without a degree or certificate. Maybe you could complete a program for a job like an x-ray tech, or take some Early Childhood Education classes and work with kids? Just a couple of ideas. And also, it might be worth it to continue on your current path, but transfer to a different school, and cut your losses on the credits you can’t transfer.
Post # 14
I just graduated this year (I’m 37) and I’m using it (first year teacher!). It wasn’t easy to juggle working full time, raising my children, and going to school but I’m glad I stuck it out.
What is your degree going to be in?
Post # 15
@mrspinesol: Funny thing is you stated “they have way too much of my money to just leave without anything to show for it.”
WHICH I DIDNT EVEN REALIZE but feel the exact same…
But then ended it with exactly how I feel.. I can’t hug my diploma next year out of happiness.. I can however hug my S/O. I get that its important but isn’t the future of my relationship as well? Obviously my s/o stands behind me no matter what I choose…but the Navy however doesn’t stand behind my decisions.. lol They’ll deploy my babe no matter what I want to do…
@iloverocks: I won’t have the option for online for any more of my classes I need so sadly not an option.
@Cory_loves_this_girl: Too funny because thats exactly what my degree is too.. And I wont be using it and I’m already 23 and still have a year left. I put off going to school for awhile because I just never knew what I wanted and then once enrolled didnt go full time and now Im trying to rush through my last few classes which I know already I wont pass or wil have to place lower and work up to.. (Ex: Chem, Statistics)
Post # 16
What would your degree be in?