Post # 1
I made my guest list and included everyone with plus ones. BUT I recently went to a friends wedding where he gave his single friends (most of whom are also going to be invited to mine) plus ones and they all RSVP’d yes with a plus one. Then the say came and they all showed up alone.
I’m just curious what others opinions are on this. Were paying almost $100 per plate and i dont mind giving plus ones if they actually bring one, but now im thinking they just dont understand or realize that weddings cost a lot.
They are all local btw! Any of my friends coming from a distance are getting a plus one regardless!
Post # 2
If they’re traveling far, it’s a nice gesture. But if they’re local and truly single, it’s not obligatory.
Post # 3
I gave everyone a plus one. We didn’t have the issue of anyone saying they were bringing someone and then not bringing someone…i’d say about half our “singles” brought someone, half came alone about.
Post # 4
It’s not necessary as part of etiquette and I understand why people don’t (cost reasons). I’m really grateful when people give me one, and I double my gift accordingly. Pretty sure my extra gift amount covers the extra plate.
Post # 5
No one likes to go to weddings alone. If they were the only name on the invitation, I’d give them a plus one. If it’s an adult living with their parents who are also invited, for example, I wouldn’t give a plus one (unless I knew they were dating someone)
Post # 6
Depends on the person. For example, one girl who is truly single, but is invited with her eight siblings, did not get a plus-one to my wedding, but my friend Sam, who knows NO ONE at the wedding and is truly single, is coming. He’s bringing his dad, which I think is nice 🙂
As PP said, it’s not fun to go to a wedding alone.
There were not many situations in which plus-ones are not fiances or spouses (and therefore it is obligatory to invite them), but in those situations, I went on a case-by-case basis.
Post # 7
We only had a few single friends and we did not give them plus ones..
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
natasha0b : No plus ones for single folks over here. They’ll all have friends and family there to hang with.
Post # 9
As long as they a)all had friends/family there b) were truly single (not dating anyone) and c) were in town, we did not give a +1. My husband did have a friend that traveled in from out of town, but he went to HS with everyone, and knew everyone there so we didn’t give him a +1 either.
Post # 10
I did not and definitely would not in your situation. It is not an obligation. Unless there was a sudden case of food poisoning or illness all in the same group, this group no show is very bizarre to me. The friends who had their dates no show en masse sound extremely thoughtless and inconsiderate, too. A responsible person would be apologizing up and down for the inconvenience and expense. I’d be rethinking their invitations as well, to be honest.
Post # 11
weddingmaven : Honestly I am! I feel the exact same way as you
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
I gave a plus one to any single person who knew less than 5 other guests attending the wedding.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!
My plan is to give singles who aren’t family a plus one if they’re 45-60 minutes+ away. It also depends how we’re doing on space.
Actually, do you think it’s okay to offer +1s to guests after we get a better idea of those attending? I don’t have many single friends, but maybe text the ones who are close-idh (under an hour) and say, “hey, just so you know, we’re looking to see how many RSVPs we’re going to get before we do +1s. Would you be interested if a spot becomes available?
Post # 14
natasha0b : we offered everyone a plus one. I wanted them at the wedding and didn’t want them to feel like they HAD to come alone just because they were single. Some brought a date, 2 friends came alone with no date
Post # 15
natasha0b : We didn’t give anyone a plus one, regardless of relationship status.