Did you give single friends plus ones?

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Busy bee

If they’re traveling far, it’s a nice gesture. But if they’re local and truly single, it’s not obligatory.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I gave everyone a plus one. We didn’t have the issue of anyone saying they were bringing someone and then not bringing someone…i’d say about half our “singles” brought someone, half came alone about. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

It’s not necessary as part of etiquette and I understand why people don’t (cost reasons). I’m really grateful when people give me one, and I double my gift accordingly. Pretty sure my extra gift amount covers the extra plate. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

No one likes to go to weddings alone. If they were the only name on the invitation, I’d give them a plus one. If it’s an adult living with their parents who are also invited, for example, I wouldn’t give a plus one (unless I knew they were dating someone) 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Depends on the person. For example, one girl who is truly single, but is invited with her eight siblings, did not get a plus-one to my wedding, but my friend Sam, who knows NO ONE at the wedding and is truly single, is coming. He’s bringing his dad, which I think is nice 🙂 

As PP said, it’s not fun to go to a wedding alone. 

There were not many situations in which plus-ones are not fiances or spouses (and therefore it is obligatory to invite them), but in those situations, I went on a case-by-case basis. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

We only had a few single friends and we did not give them plus ones..

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natasha0b :  

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

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natasha0b :  No plus ones for single folks over here.  They’ll all have friends and family there to hang with.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

As long as they a)all had friends/family there  b) were truly single (not dating anyone) and c) were in town, we did not give a +1. My husband did have a friend that traveled in from out of town, but he went to HS with everyone, and knew everyone there so we didn’t give him a +1 either. 

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper

I did not and definitely would not in your situation. It is not an obligation. Unless there was a sudden case of food poisoning or illness all in the same group, this group no show is very bizarre to me. The friends who had their dates no show en masse sound extremely thoughtless and inconsiderate, too. A responsible person would be apologizing up and down for the inconvenience and expense. I’d be rethinking their invitations as well, to be honest. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I gave a plus one to any single person who knew less than 5 other guests attending the wedding.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!

My plan is to give singles who aren’t family a plus one if they’re 45-60 minutes+ away. It also depends how we’re doing on space. 

 

Actually, do you think it’s okay to offer +1s to guests after we get a better idea of those attending? I don’t have many single friends, but maybe text the ones who are close-idh (under an hour) and say, “hey, just so you know, we’re looking to see how many RSVPs we’re going to get before we do +1s. Would you be interested if a spot becomes available?

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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natasha0b :  we offered everyone a plus one. I wanted them at the wedding and didn’t want them to feel like they HAD to come alone just because they were single. Some brought a date, 2 friends came alone with no date 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

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natasha0b :  We didn’t give anyone a plus one, regardless of relationship status.

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