Did you give single friends plus ones?

posted 4 months ago in Guests
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We had like 2 single people and I asked if they wanted a plus one but both said no. 

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2020 - Round Rock, TX

natasha0b :  I am only giving plus ones to people who are traveling far or wont know anyone else at the wedding!

Post # 18
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Bumble bee

We are giving all adults plus 1. Older teens and young adults, no. 

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

No. Most of my friends are single BUT they’ve all known each other for years, I didn’t see the point of plus ones.

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My sister was single at the time, and I asked her if she would like a plus one since she didn’t know too many people in our social circle. She brought one of her girlfriends. I think that was the only instance at our wedding. 

I would check with people first, not just blanket offer it, especially since it could get pricey for you. 

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I gave plus ones to anybody engaged or married. Then i had a few people ask if they could bring their bf/gf. And we said sure. I was not offering plus 1s to people who were going to be bringing a random friend except my brothers and the 1 single member of our bridal party

Post # 22
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Newbee

If you have space then yes, I would also consider calling up individually and making sure they are definitely bringing someone (or at least have been thinking about who to bring).

I’m not offering plus ones for singles since every guest of mine will definitely know some other people there (e.g: group of high school friends, group of relatives, group of mutual friends). Of course, if a guest happens to not know anyone, I will offer a plus one, especially if the guest has a significant other.

My experience with others’ weddings in my town is that singles do not usually bring plus ones, and they will RSVP no if nobody they know is going. 

Post # 23
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Helper bee

All single guests were invited with pus ones to my wedding.  Some did RSVP no and came alone, but I didn’t have anyone rsvp yes to a plus one and show up solo.  Thata less of a plus one issue, more of a guest etiquette issue. 

Post # 24
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Helper bee

Yeah we did.  Only one used it and tbh id have named her date cus we all knew they were a thing long before they knew they were a thing lol. 

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

No we only gave plus ones to people that were in serious relationships

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

Yes.  “And Guest” for everyone.  

Post # 27
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Honey bee

I have never NOT been given a plus one when I was single (well, once – when I was c-listed basically and they were kind of rude in a few other ways as well).

I think this is a function of you having rude (or at least socially inept) friends, not some sort of systemic issue with plus ones.  Sure, there might be the odd no-show (your planned plus one got sick or had an emergency).  But I (as well as my friends who have been extended plus ones) just don’t RSVP for a guest if we don’t have a specific person we plan to bring and go alone – not just automatically RSVP with a guest and then not bring one if we can’t find one.  Not sure why your friend group isn’t capable of that concept.

Post # 28
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Anyone who was in a relationship (for any length of time)  was invited with their SO. We didn’t add “and guest” to any of our single guests invites but word of mouth they knew they could bring someone if they wanted – we didn’t have many single guests anyway so it would have only been a couple extra people anyway and we weren’t paying $100 a plate.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2029

natasha0b :  I don’t plan on doing that.  If they are dating someone, I will give them a plus one or fit them in if they meet someone.  What I’m afraid if I do that, they will just invite a random person just because I gave them a plus one.  I never got a plus one when I was single.  If I did I would come alone.

Post # 30
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Helper bee

Only if they really wouldn’t know anyone. But then again, honestly this doesn’t usually apply to many people so if it’s just a handful, just give the plus ones and double confirm. 

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