(Closed) did you guys get a say in your bridesmaid dresses???

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Did you get to pick out your Bridesmaid dresses?
    Yes, i got to pick it out : (8 votes)
    24 %
    Yes, but i had some guidelines to stay in : (8 votes)
    24 %
    No, i had no say : (12 votes)
    36 %
    No, but i didnt care : (5 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Why don’t you just pick for them and let that be the end of it?  If they can handle choosing their own, as you’ve given them fair opportunity to do, do it for them.

    Post # 4
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    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I gave my girls a color, fabric, and designer and said pick one. I did end up changing the color because one of them couldn’t find a dress she liked in the color I originally wanted, but oh well. I think that you should be able to set parameters (length, color, fabric) and then have them choose within that. As long as the dress isn’t too expensive (which is something you would have to figure out with your girls), then they should really be able to stick to your guidelines and wear something that you like. It’s part of being a bridesmaid, IMO. 

    Post # 5
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    46373 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    In every wedding where I was a bridesmaid, the bride picked out the dresses and told us what to order.

    Post # 6
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    201 posts
    Helper bee

    I was Maid/Matron of Honor in my best friends wedding 2 years ago and she asked that it be floor length and any light to medium purple color.

    Post # 7
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    514 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I’ve always gotten to go and try dresses on but ultimately the bride picked what she liked and I was fine with it. I just think it’s her pictures, her wedding, her day, etc and she should be happy with how everything looks (yes I am calling myself a thing).

    Post # 8
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    3176 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I asked for opinions but ultimately made the decision.

    Post # 9
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    3255 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think that giving choices to bridesmaids is really considerate, but my bridesmaids actually wanted me to choose a dress so they didn’t have to stress over which one to choose. I think it’s different with every group of bridesmaids, so ask your girls what they would prefer: Should you choose the dress, or would they like you to select a color and/or designer they have to go with?

    Post # 10
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    1371 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I have been in two weddings and had my own.  In the first one, the bride told us she didn’t care, just that she wanted it to be long, that they could even be different styles as long as they were the same colour.  All of us went shopping with the bride and ended up picking the same dress, but two of us were very easy-going.  The second was my sister’s wedding, I spent hours going to different stores and trying on dresses and sending them to my sister & the other attendants.  From the pictures we all agreed on one dress my sister liked.  For my own wedding, I told my sisters it had to be green and short and they could find one they liked.  They wore different dresses.

    It seems as though you want to be accommodating to your friends, but it can be difficult if they are argumentative or picky.  If you want them to all wear the same style and colour of dress, you will likely have a hard time (the first time I was a bridesmaid two of the girls were very picky and if the other two of us had also been picky it would have been impossible).  You might just have to pick one out!

    Post # 11
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    4547 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    2 of my Bridesmaid or Best Man went with me and I picked something out I thought would look good on everyone and was economical.

    Post # 12
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    11258 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Yeah they’re probably taking advantage. Like hilsy85 I think you need to set some parameters so that it also reminds them it’s your final decision.

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