Post # 1
If so, did you like it MORE or LESS than you would if you’d had many people, do you think?
I really want a small, intimate ceremony with close family and friends, and I really want to stay under 30 guests…but is that really smart? Also, how much was the total cost of ceremony + reception with your small wedding?
Post # 3
We’re expecting approximately 30 people for our January wedding. Not exactly sure about costs, but I think it’ll be around $4,000 (pre-ceremony cocktail hour, private charter sailboat, picnic style-reception aboard the boat, flowers, attire, officant, transportation, etc).
Post # 4
Mine was 36, felt mostly perfect but a little sparse during dancing. I think the key is to choose your venue very carefully so that your guests fill the space appropriately and don’t feel like they are rattling around. The reception & ceremony (venue, food and bev, DJ, ceremony musician, florals) was about 20k. We loved the intimacy and were able to go all out because we kept the guest list small. Good luck! Let us know what you decide!
Post # 5
We have a venue that seats 80 at it’s limit, so I think staying under 30 or 40 people would work nicely. 🙂 I hope to spend no more than 5k, if possible. ;P
Post # 6
Right now it looks more like 10… not sure how many of those won’t come. Oh, well. I am getting married for us, not for “them”! But I am a bit disappointed I won’t have more.
Post # 7
@StefLovesJamie: Our wedding is very small 14-16 including us. It’s a destination for most of the guests, we’re having it in the town we’re relocating to and we only know one couple there, so the rest of our family and friends will have to travel.
Because it’s a destination wedding, we have a few additional costs for our wedding like hosting a welcome dinner the night before and a farewell brunch the next day. And we’re having some extras for the reception like an ice cream sundae buffet, late night snack, sorbet pallette cleanser during dinner which elevated the cost a bit further. We’re spending roughly 5k, not including the honeymoon. One of the nice things about a smaller guest list is that you can have some extras you might not be able to do if you had a larger wedding 🙂
Plus, having a smaller wedding, allows for savings on the venue. One of our top contenders charged 15k for the grand ballroom, their secondary ballroom which was every bit as pretty and could accomdate 75 people (still a decent number) was only $500 in comparison! That’s 14.5k less just for the venue!
Post # 8
We are inviting 40 people, so I expect 30-35 to attend, so slightly larger than you asked…
But yes, I am completely happy with the size; we are inviting everyone that we want to be there – hopefully they will show up 🙂 We both have very small families and not that many close friends.
Total cost is going to be around $10,000, perhaps up to $12,000 depending on things like whether we rent chairs and tables. I have a complete budget down to the dollar but I still don’t understand how it ended up that expensive with our relatively rustic wedding!!
Post # 9
I’m having a 30-ish guest list. It might go up into the 30s, but I can’t see it getting higher than that. We’re driving down from north Georgia to the Gulf Coast area. Budget is about $2,500, not including my dress.
We’re getting a house on the beach (~$800) and doing the ceremony there. Reception is still kind of up in the air, but I’m thinking we’ll have cake and punch at the house and dinner somewhere nice. I’ll figure out the reception after we commit to a ceremony location.
Post # 10
We had 23 guests and it was perfect. I wouldn’t change a thing. We had time to talk to all our guests and do lots of little extras that we could never have done with a big guest list. We paid about $400 for the venue, $700 for the catering. All in all it was about $3500, I think. We didn’t have a very strict budget.
Post # 11
We have a lot of extended family and no-so-close friends that may be hurt by not being invited to the ceremony, but I just don’t want 200 people there (and our initial list topped that). I was thinking of inviting other members to the reception, that way they could be a part of the celebration…but I didn’t know if they would be angry and not come, or what.
Seriously, though. If I could invite just my parents, his mom and step-dad, his dad, his brother, my sister, his grandmother, and my grandparents, I would. Without a doubt. But then I’d have to invite his aunt, who is caretaker of his grandmother, and then his other aunt and her husband because she’d feel left out. My family is quite a bit larger than his, I’d have to invite 4 sets of aunts/uncles and then it would leave my second aunts upset and…see what I mean?
At this point it’s so frustrating. My parents are paying for the wedding and don’t MIND having a lot of people, but I really don’t want a big wedding. I don’t see how this is possible unless I just say, “Okay, intermediate family only. That’s it.”
Post # 12
I had about 22 or 23…it was great! I can’t compare it to having a larger wedding, because obviously, I did not have a large wedding – but my day was amazing, and I wouldn’t have changed a thing! It was intimate, with those who reallly cared about us, and very special!
Post # 13
If immediate family is what you want then say so, it’s your day it should be the way you want it, I myself am planning on having a maximum of 20