Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2016 - Akron, OH
Bees, I often consider myself a nontraditional bride. I think a lot of traditions are changing. I orignally felt like I should at least stick with the now age old tradition of not seeing each other before the ceremony, but I’ve noticed a lot of people lately have been getting first looks. Did you have one? Why or why not? Are you happy with your choice or would you do it differently? Thanks for your help! I’m leaving this up to the Fiance though, we’re both pretty unsure about this so maybe you can help us weigh in on our choice. : )
Post # 2
We did to take advantage of time. I am glad we did, it was so hot that by the time the ceremony was over the curls had fallen and my hair was not in its best shape. I’m glad we had pictures where we both like look “fresh”, not sweaty from the heat. It also allowed us to enjoy cocktail hour with everyone
Post # 3
Definitely do the first look! We got some incredible photos from it. Think of it as a private mini ceremony, and as an opportunity for amazing photos. Do it!
Post # 4
We did the first look, though actually he saw me before that point as well. I’m glad in the end, but not for the right reason. In our case it helped my husband get over the awkwardness of having his photo taken constantly (and me, to a lesser extent). He looks really uncomfortable in our first photos. I don’t actually like any of them. He thinks he looked like a stalker because I had thought since it was such a recent trend it would be nice to do it in revers to be a little different. Anyway the longer we did photos, the more comfortable he seemed.
I think that other people get really great first look photos and it gives you time for some intimacy without a huge audience.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2015 - Star Spangled Banner Flag House Museum
We did a first look and it was fantastic! It was mainly to capture some sunlight since our wedding was at 5:30PM and it was getting dark by the time it was over. We captured great photos and it also gave us alone time to process all that was about to happen. Even though he saw me before the ceremony, DH still got weepy when I walked down the aisle! 🙂
Post # 6
I’m so glad we did a first look. I love the photos we took before the ceremony, but the actual photos of us seeing each other aren’t really that exciting. We took family photos after the ceremony, and I could not wait to get out of there! I’m glad we have them of course, but I wish we could have done those first too so we could have enjoyed the cocktail hour!
Post # 7
We did one because I was not missing cocktail hour! We actually greeted all guests at cocktail hour so we didn’t waste time doing it during dinner and really got to enjoy our reception.
Post # 8
Timings of USA weddings seem to be a little different sometimes to the uk way, but usually here groom and congregation are in the ceremony room/church/whatever. The bride arrives and walks in without anyone other than the registrar/bridesmaids/whoever is walking down the isle seing her.
First looks aren’t done here (I’ve never heard of it here anyway)
im really looking forward to ‘making an entrance’ and seeing my grooms gorgeous face at the end of the isle waiting for me. personally, I wouldn’t want that before the ceremony starts. Photographers seem to be able to capture that. I’m looking forward to our private time alone for a few moments after the ceremony when our guests move on the reception, we will hang back for some photos, just us.
Post # 9
We had a first look and took all of our pictures before the ceremony. I loved it because it made me a lot less nervous for the ceremony and we had a ton more time for pictures. We only had to worry about doing the family pics between the ceremony and reception.
Post # 10
We had a first look. We wanted to have some time just to ourselves before the ceremony and reception. We are both introverts and having some quiet time to spend with each other meant so much to us. Our photographers were very unobtrusive and for much of the time we forgot they were even there! Our best photos are from that time – we were relaxed and enjoying each other’s company as we walked around our venue. We are very happy with that choice.
Post # 11
We did a firstlook and I wouldn’t have had it any other way. We had a later ceremony, so to do it after would have cost us a lot of time with our guests.
Post # 12
We did a first look. It really helped eliminate any anxiety. In fact eveyone kept commenting about what a calm bride I was. We were able to relax with each other and the entire bridal party before the ceremony.
Post # 13
We did not do a first look, and I 100% regret it. As a wedding photographer, I totally knew better, but I let my DH have “that one thing” since he hadn’t really seemed one way or another about anything else.
It still kills me that I’m such an advocate for it, but I didn’t listen to my gut and do it. It poured buckets on my wedding day, and had we done the first look, we would have easily gotten all the photos I wanted before the rain came. As it was, we were super limited on location (and good light, because it was dark/rainy). My photographer was amazing, and it’s most certainly NOT her fault that I feel like my bride/groom portraits are majorly lacking.
I can’t tell you how many times as a wedding photographer that same scenerio has happened at my weddings – and each time we’ve been able to get photos in during a first look – instead of having to deal with rain. On top of that, most of my couples who do a first look are 10x more relaxed than those who don’t.
Post # 14
Yes we did, and I’m grateful. We both cried. In fact I’m shocked how much my husband cried – tears flowing – I had only seen him cry ONE other time in 2 years!! I really think he felt nervous in the church so I’m glad we had our moment together.
Plus the pictures are some of my absolute favorite… if you want me to share I will. 🙂
Post # 15
p.s. Make sure you plan your First Look SPOT and that it’s private with the photographers from kinda far away… I had mine all planned out and it went perfectly.
My sister had hers on the steps inside the “getting ready” house, and my parents were there, the groomsmen, bridesmaids peeking over the railing, photographers – she said it was her ONE regret because there were too many people and it was awkward. How weird to kiss your husband with your dad standing 2 feet away!!