(Closed) Did you have a gender preference?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: What was your gender preference (for your 1st baby)?

    I literally had no preference

    I had a slight preference for a girl (husband wanted a boy)

    I had a slight preference for a boy (husband wanted a girl)

    We both wanted a girl

    We both wanted a boy

  • Post # 2
    442 posts
    Helper bee

    I didn’t vote because I’m not actually pregnant or a mom yet, but I am TTC and I have a slight preference for a girl (of course, would be thrilled with either!)   I don’t know if DH has a preference. We’ve not talked about it yet– one step at a time! 

    Post # 3
    1855 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I had no preference at all, absolutely none. I think after a year of trying and a miscarriage I was just thrilled to be pregnant with a healthy baby ☺️ 

    I am having a little boy and I wonder if next time I’ll be leaning towards wanting a girl because I’ve always wanted both. We will see! 

    Post # 4
    4328 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I always wanted all boys. Everyone assumed that bc I am really into stereotypical female things like clothes and makeup that I would want girls. Nope.

    While I absolutely acknowledge that both have their challenges, boys have always struck me as easier. Boys beat each other up, girls tend to tear one another down psychologically, and I just feel like with all the pressure women face on social media etc…i just would be so scared raising a daughter these days. Some of that is probably unfair stereotypes, but it has never seemed to me like boys face the same pressures..

    Post # 5
    754 posts
    Busy bee

    I didn’t vote because I had a slight preference for a girl (wasn’t even aware of the preference until I felt relieved when the sonographer said girl!), and my husband had a slight but more so than me preference for a girl too

    Post # 6
    6889 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I didn’t vote. I really wanted a girl and my husband just wanted a healthy baby.  He was okay with either gender.  

    Post # 7
    10509 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I’m not pregnant but we are talking about TTC next year so we’ve talked about this a lot. We both have a slight preference for a girl but we will be truly happy either way. Though it will definetly be a struggle to come up with a name for a boy. We have a list of about 3 or 4 girl names that we love but can’t find a single boy name that we both like.

    Post # 8
    452 posts
    Helper bee

    We both had a preference for a boy, and are currently pregnant with a boy. I grew up with an older brother, and my husband grew up with a brother, and is also really into sports. Although we’d both have been happy with a girl and just hope for healthy children, we were really excited. I will say now that I’m decorating the nursery (mostly gender neutral as we’re planning to reuse the bigger furniture like crib dresser and glider), I’m finding there’s so many more options for girls and would be thrilled to have a girl (or boy) in the future.

    Post # 9
    1394 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I didn’t vote cause I’m not pregnant yet. But DH wants a girl and I have no preference.

    Post # 10
    1078 posts
    Bumble bee

    After years of infertility, my only desire was a healthy baby.  Currently pregnant with a boy. 

    Post # 11
    1127 posts
    Bumble bee

    Bees with husbands who want girls:

    Im curious why?  No judgements whatsoever I just never really hear about dads to be wanting girls instead of boys so I’m interested to hear about it

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    Post # 14
    754 posts
    Busy bee

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    megrays :  I must admit I usually only ever hear about husbands wanting boys too. My sister’s theory is that it’s because they know what boys go through growing up and so feel relevant!

    In my husband’s case, his best friend has a boy and girl and he gets on much better with the girl. She adores him. My god daughters also worship the ground he walks on (only slightly exaggerating!) and so he’s had very good experiences of girls. 

    He’s also not one for sticking to gender stereotypes. He fully intends to take our daughter to be to the rugby with him and to teach her the martial Arts he knows. I think he gets a kick out of the idea that he’s breaking down gender barriers even a little.

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