(Closed) Did you have a hard time “fitting in” here?

posted 7 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@tee22:  I felt this way when I first signed up. Actually for a long time. I was on before under another username and didnt feel as connected to the community but I couldnt figure out why. I took a break for about a month and then re-joined under this name. What I tried to do was to respond to people more than post my own thing, respond to specific people in threads, PM people that I felt I had something in common with or wanted to talk to something about. THe more you are out there, the more people get to know you. Ive been here over a year and it has taken some time. You will notice that the more well known bees have also been around for a while or just post A LOT. Dont let it discourage you though!!

Post # 4
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I haven’t looked at any of your posts specifically, but I think everyone feels like that a little when they start off here. People are just more likely to respond to your posts if they know who you are. The best way to meet people is to post on other people’s posts. No one likes feeling like someone is here only to get advice and never to help others. Also people like really specific questions, and mostly with pictures. Do you like dress A or B, etc. Just some ideas πŸ™‚

Post # 5
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yep, I think we all feel like that once in a while!


Post # 6
46612 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Another tip is to watch what time of day you post. If it’s late your post will not show up on the main board when people get up in the morning and some people only look at the main board.

Post # 7
6351 posts
Bee Keeper

Hmmm… I don’t really remember having a hard time but I think it’s because Miss Tattoo (who was on here a lot back then) took me under her wing.

I’m also super outgoing so I started PMing users to talk about their weddings, dress, etc.

I do a lot of voting on dresses and congratulating on engagements too.


Post # 8
509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’ll be your friend! lol


I know I don’t post enough to be well known, but I’m not worried about anything. I give and take friendly advice whenever I can, which isn’t often. 

Post # 9
1909 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011


Hi there! You’ve already gotten some great advice. Just wanted to say hello πŸ™‚ The more you’re on the boards commenting on threads, starting your own for advice, and reaching out via PM, you’ll get to know more people and feel the camaraderie. I’ve been on a month or so, got some great support through my personal dress regret, and also attended a local meet up, all of which really helped me connect. Hang out a while, you’ll find your groove πŸ™‚ * hugs *

Post # 11
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think so. I respond to whatever topic I’m most interested in. I don’t care really who posted it. I will say that I read far more than I post but I reconize people and will try and remember to check back for updates or see where they are in the planning.

Post # 12
387 posts
Helper bee

Sure, all the time!  But, I figure everyone else has their own lives too, and mine is just not as important to everyone else (although, I must disagree Smile).  I submitted a new post about veils earlier, and there is still no responses, so it’s not just you! 


I’ll be your friend!

Post # 13
363 posts
Helper bee


I’m relatively new as well πŸ™‚ i agree with the other ladies, the more you post and respond, the more people get to know you.

I’ve also noticed that I remember people better when they have a picture or a unique name. And that is getting me thinking…. that perhaps I should put up a picture myself!! πŸ˜‰


Post # 14
2392 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it’s like anything else – it takes awhile before you start to get to know people and they start to know you.  At first, I am sure no one knew me (probably most people still don’t…) and I didn’t always know who everyone else was but then I started to recognize people who helped me choose a wedding dress and other people who live in my area or have similar hobbies. 

It also seems like there’s a night shift and a day shift… if you tend to only post at one time, you’ll probably see more of the same “shift” of posters around.

Post # 15
3758 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@tee22: awww don’t feel bad, I have been here for a while and I  still feel this way. Its nothing personal I am sure, it just happens sometimes πŸ™‚ I will be your friend, I could always use one haha…

Post # 16
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011 - St. Joseph's Parish, Seattle Tennis Club

Everyone has to start somewhere, right? πŸ˜‰ Just post, be responsive, etc. etc. And stick with it! Once you’ve been on here for some time, you get to know the other posters.

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