(Closed) Did you have a hard time “fitting in” here?

posted 9 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 45
Member
2346 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I can’t remember how I felt when I just joined but it’s a good idea to ignore the initial awkwardness and just jump into posting and answering threads and you’ll see before long you’ll feel part of this great community.

Hope you feel more at home soon.Smile

Post # 46
Member
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Haha! I feel this way now! But I feel like I’m getting to “know” more people everyday.

Post # 47
Member
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think I don’t generally have friendships here because I never PM with anyone, so I only really get to know the members through the boards. That’s ok with me though– I don’t really worry about it. πŸ™‚ I’ve been around for a while too.

Also, I don’t really post too many questions. I mostly just respond to others.

Post # 48
Member
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I thought this was a place for advice, venting, drooling,  flaunting, and comiserating. Didnt realize there was a popularity contest going on too.  Glad I missed that email.

Post # 49
Member
253 posts
Helper bee

I’m relatively new here too and I feel sometimes that I’m not fitting in. But I am definitely trying to post on other people’s threads and trying to get to know people. I think everyone on here is very nice though and I have really liked talking to some of the girls I’ve met already. I think it just takes time to become accquainted on here. +)

Post # 50
Member
3010 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think there’s more than a few of us that have felt this way.  You just have to weasel your way in.  Make your words/posts stand out.  Reply/comment on other things.  People, then in return (but not all of the time), will do the same for you.  πŸ˜€

I will admit that I have not seen your name much on the thread.  Also, majority of the posts can be repeated constantly.  i know I don’t look at threads that I’ve seen posted a million times or I’ve already answered.  Depends on my mood as well.

Glad to see you’re here on the weddingbee though.  Don’t be a stranger!

Post # 51
Member
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I felt like it, I posted a picture of my wedding dress and no one replied, i though bees hated my dress, but then i figured what ever …

Post # 52
Member
7770 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@tee22:  Like any relationship, it just takes time πŸ™‚ to get to “know” people.  I remember your avatar though because I like it.

 

Post # 53
Member
1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It’s just the nature of internet boards.  Some Bees have been here for many months, post daily, and “know” each other. They usually chit chat on here and you know their story. Others just check in occasionally to ask a question.  It has been like this on every forum I’ve ever been on. 

I’m sorry you feel like an outsider.  I am sure that with time, you will feel much more comfortable here.  The Bees are very nice.  Sometimes a thread gets little or no responses. But that has nothing to do with who posts it (at least not to my knowledge).  It just happens.  I hope you will stay on here! πŸ™‚

Post # 54
Member
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry you feel like an outsider.  The best way I’ve noticed to get used to the community, it to poke around and comment on other people’s threads.  Usually when people only pop up to ask questions and then disappear, I don’t remember them as much.

Post # 55
Hostess
11050 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@tee22: When I first joined I certainly felt like the newbee for a while and then after a couple of months or so I was anxious again of having that feeling of ‘am I liked?’ It WILL pass as you do strike up a chord with certain bees and may message over something in particular or in just general chat. It will pass as you’re more out there and people get to know you. πŸ˜‰

Post # 56
Member
3048 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Just remember that people post so often.. that your post can be lost! So if nonbody responds in say 30 minutes, just bump it so someone will see it again! I honestly just answer questions that I’m interested in or feel like I could help. I know what it’s like to have one (or no) people respond to your post. So I try to respond if I see a post that has a low count… but if I can’t help that person out then it seems useless.

I can’t figure out if I’m a newbie or not. I’m not sure where I fit in to be honest, or if people even recognize my name. But I just keep posting! I love to give feedback. It’s very rare that I have a thread of my own so maybe that’s the difference. I feel pretty loved here. So just try to keep responding to other people’s posts and not just start your own. I’ve gotten the sense that people don’t like it when there’s a post that reads:

“I’ve been stalking the boards for a while now… and I really need help with this issue”. We all help out. And then never hear from them again. I’m not saying that’s awful or anything, I think people just like it when you give back to what you’re receiving here on WB. This is not necessarily directed at you because I don’t even know who you are (guess that doesn’t help) but, it’s more of the way I found a place here in WB πŸ™‚

Post # 57
Hostess
11050 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@minie77: Warning! Mrs.tobe has got a thing for avatars! She dissed mine (my old one) on more than one occassion. LOL it’s a running joke we have πŸ˜‰

Post # 58
Member
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You’re not alone! I’ve been on weddingbee for almost 2 years and I’m just starting to get recognized from previous threads. It takes time and it helps if you concentrate on replying to other threads. I used to think a bride was gorgeous and would keep it to myself, but now I make sure to tell them.

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