(Closed) Did you have a headtable if you had a sweetheart table?

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
598 posts
Busy bee

Pretty much every wedding that I have been to (which will include my own in a few weeks) all had only a sweetheart table and the members of the wedding party were all separated but was at least with their significant others and their group of friends/families.  I personally find head tables unfair to the guests of the wedding party who end up having to sit alone, sometimes with no one that they know. They already have to spend most of the day alone while the wedding activites happen so I don’t think it’ll be any better having them have to dine without their significant other too. That’s just my personal opinion on them! 

Post # 3
598 posts
Busy bee

Ah sorry I just saw you are having them sit with their SO. I still think it would be nice if you put them with their group of friends/families. Do all of them have dates? It could be awkward for someone if they didn’t have anyone to sit next to them with all the other couples 

Post # 4
1226 posts
Bumble bee

My daughter had a sweetheart table. The bridal party sat with their SOs at tables within their social circle.  There were no tables where people didn’t know at least one other couple.  People even thanked her for her seating arrangement because they felt so comfortable.  That’s what she was going for above all.

Post # 6
3918 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I think that unless your entire bridal party are friends you should place them where they would be comfortable. My FI have already tentatively discussed seating charts when discussing a guest list and how we want our venue arranged. We are having a sweetheart table for sure, because I personally find head tables annoying and unncessary. I would not want to put my bridesmaids together because, while they may be the closest women in my life, not all know each other very well. My FI’s sister will obviously sit with my FI’s family; my sisters and brother’s girlfriend will sit with my brother and parents. Friends will sit with friends. 

I say integrate your bridesmaids and groomsmen throughout the venue as opposed to forcing them into one table.

Post # 7
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My thoughts:  Once those great friends have done their job up and down the aisle, they should enjoy your wedding as much as any other guest. Therefore, I believe seating them as you would any other guest is appropriate.  My bridal party was mixed throughout all of my “friends” guest tables as I saw fit.  

Post # 8
2823 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I think you’re worrying about it way too much. I think that when you arrange the seating you should seat them wherever makes the most sense for their enjoyment of the reception and not think about the fact that they’re in your wedding party at all. If you’re putting them at tables with people whose company they will enjoy, that’s all that matters, not whether there are three wedding party members + SOs at one table and only two at another.

Post # 9
2207 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I prefer to just seat people where they will be comfortable and happy – that generally means with other people they know. If this means that 2 groomsmen are at one table with other friends and 3 are with family then just do it.

You physically will not be able to fit 13 plates/chairs at a table (I am assuming you have 60″ rounds?) and while yes people will get up and dance after dinner you also don’t want to have people unable to eat because they can’t move their arms at the table (especially since usually you would put this table towards the front think of how messy and squished it will look)

the other option would be 3 tables of 8? but that means that another table and centerpiece etc which means more money

Post # 10
12635 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You either have a sweetheart table, or a head table.  You don’t typically do both. 

I would just mix your bridal party up.  If you can comfortably fit 10 at a table, putting more than 10 is a bad idea.

Post # 11
4282 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Are any wedding party members from your families/siblings? If you really want to have wedding party tables, maybe you could put the family members at family tables, instead, which could cut the numbers down to reasonable tables.

Post # 14
6168 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

We had a sweetheart table. Our bridal party were all seated with their spouses/dates at tables within their circle of friends. I personally HATE head tables. I think they’re silly, as a long table of your bridal party means that no one is really talking to each other anyway.

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