Post # 16
I already told my Maid/Matron of Honor that I do not want one. I wouldn’t be okay with my fiancé being with strippers and I expect that he would feel the same way about me. I just don’t see the appeal of it, personally.
Post # 17
We went to a chocolate-themed cocktail bar, stayed overnight at a hotel, had a nice breakfast, and went to a few wine tastings. No strippers. Just not my taste. My husband went to a strip club as part of his. We discussed that I was ok with a strip club for him but not anything like sketchy craigslist strippers in a hotel room. So I guess do whatever makes you happy as long as all involved are comfortable with it!
Post # 18
We went to the Hustler strip club in Vegas for mine. We picked it specifically because it had both male and female strippers, but we wound up never leaving the floor with the men! It was VERY different from the female strip clubs I have been to. I was super hesitant at first when I was there because I’m used to the rules female strippers have–no touching, etc. It was totally different. The men encouraged us to touch them. I bought several lap dances and they were all over me, bending me over the couches, rubbing my hands all over them, touching me, etc.
My Maid/Matron of Honor paid for two of them to get me up on the stage and they danced on me, put me on the floor of the stage, tied me up and spanked me. There was lots of simulating sex, etc.
Now there were plenty of women there that didn’t get that up close and personal with them, so I think it’s based on your comfort level. My DH and I are pretty open and not jealous, and I knew he wouldn’t have been unhappy or threatened with anything that went on. It was a fun time that we paid for, and having worked in the sex industry before (webcam model) I have a clear understanding of the distance between real sex and what they offer. (Although one did proposition me). They were all very respectful though, and didn’t push anyone’s boundaries. I would totally recommend it to anyone who is comfortable with the idea of strippers. I had a great time and would love to go back again. I didn’t feel that there was anything dirty or raunchy about it, and the club owner was very nice and respectful too.