(Closed) Did you have an engagement party?

posted 12 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Did you have an engagement party?

    Yes

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    Sort of...let me explain!

  • Post # 47
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

    I feel like kind of a brat now, bc not only did we have about 30 people celebrate our engagement at a mimosa brunch the day we got engaged (which was a surprise to me, FH set that all up) but then my parents threw a backyard BBQ for us in June with about 75 people and now FH’s parents are throwing us another party down in Miami in November and inviting over 100! I guess both our families like to party 🙂 But it does seem kind of unnecessary…

    Post # 48
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    We didn’t think we’d have one, so I voted that “let me explain” option; basically, on our visit to his hometown in Iowa, we had two get-togethers (one with his mom and her side of the family, the other with his dad and their side of the family) which, as I found out, day of, were for their families to get to know me…and subsequently, celebrate our engagement =D

    Post # 49
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    No, We didn’t have an engagement party. We didn’t even start planning our wedding til almost a year after we got engaged, so there wasn’t really a point to it, IMO.

    Post # 50
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    It was an already sort of planned graduation party but then got engaged a week before and so then had a bit more people and our parents and a cake that said something about being engaged.

    Post # 51
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    My Maid/Matron of Honor and her Mom (my Aunt) threw us an engagement party in their backyard with all of our favorite food and tons of our friends and family.  It was a blast and about 14 months before our wedding.  Although, I have to admit it was the first engagement party I had been to!

    Post # 52
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    OMG yes we are having one and I SO wish that we weren’t. My mom is throwing it (it’s in October) and so far it has been a nightmare from the very beginning. In the beginning she was asking me for input on things but when I didn’t like something she jumped down my throat and tried to lay on guilt because she’s paying for it and hosting it at their house etc etc and tried to say I didn’t appreciate what she was doing. Here’s a thought, Mom – if you don’t want my opinion, don’t ask for it! I would have been perfectly happy to be left out of it completely and let her do her thing, but no, she decided she was going to send me a million emails with ideas and then chew me out when I didn’t necessarily like all of them. So frustrating.

    Then came the guest list debacle. She decided to do a sit down catered dinner in our house, which IS big enough for it, but for whatever reason she is using a smaller part of the house to put the tables, so she went completely psycho about the head count. I had to hear it from her a million times about having TWO extra people on the list. She freaked out about how they won’t fit just assuming that every single person invited would be able to come. Like seriously, screaming phone fights. THEN she tells me that her stupid cousin (who I’ve never met) invited her 12 year old son (who I’ve also never met) and she said OK. Then she also added her best friend from San Diego to the list. All after yelling at me over two people. I’d like also to add that of the list of 50, SIX people were mine. At this point I honestly just want it to be over. Maybe that sounds ungrateful, but after all the s**t she’s put me through about it, I think I’ve earned the right to be annoyed.

    Post # 53
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We actually are having 3 engagement parties! I’m originally from MD even though I live in GA now, and right after we got engaged we visited MD and my Maid/Matron of Honor threw an engagement party for us for all the people who live up there. It was a great chance to see people again. Then when I graduated, my parents threw me a joint graduation/engagement party since they were kind of close together, and we invited my FI’s family to come down. Now I’ve found out that some of our friends in KY are wanting to throw us an engagement party too! Luckily, none of them were very big events, and definitely no presents other than wine or things like that, so I don’t feel too bad 🙂 Everyone loves an excuse to celebrate and get together!

    Post # 54
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Both of our parents are hosting a joined Engagement Party for my Fiance and I on Oct. 17th. The idea is more or less so that I know my family knows his family before the wedding and so there is no awkward silence between some members of the family day of wedding. It is strictly for the bridal party and our immediate (aunts, cousins etc.) only. I’m excited because both sets of parents are really getting into planning this cocktail party. Should be fun!

    Post # 55
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We had dinner at a restaurant with all my family from Canada since it it most likely that they won’t be there for the wedding in California.

    Post # 56
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would love to have one but his family is in New Zealand and my family is in America and we live in Australia. We do plan on going to America before the wedding but I don’t see the point of having an engagement party without his family. A bit bummed but I know the wedding will be fabulous

    Post # 57
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour

    Kind of. We had a small ‘get to know each other’ thing at my parents place with only family members from both sides.

    Post # 58
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Sorta… Fiance proposed with a ton of my friends in a place that served alcohol. Right after he proposed, we partied with our friends (plus my brother had brought a cake).  

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