(Closed) Did you have any hand in planning your FI's bachelor party?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The only thing I’ve done is relayed a message to the best man via his fiancee that several of the guys here in town have offered to throw Fiance a local party if his getaway camping weekend doesn’t pan out.  Other than that, I’m steering clear of anything to do with it.

Your Fiance is an adult and can tell his best man if he wants to do something different.  Are they keeping the plans a secret from him or something?  Even then, the most I might do is ask the best man if Fiance was excited to hear about their bachelor party ideas (HINT!).

Post # 5
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I did. My FI’s groomsmen all live out of town so I provided the guests list to the Best Man and suggested activities for them as well as the pointing them to the “classier” strip clubs in town.

Post # 6
2790 posts
Sugar bee

I’m really close to our groomsmen, we call the best man my man of honor, so I had no problem suggesting things. They haven’t planned it yet but I let them no he doesn’t want to sky dive Or get his ass beat at a strip club. I also gave my blessing for Vegas. Just tell him what your Fiance said and let them interpret it.

Post # 7
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I won’t be having any imput to the bachelor party, that’s for him and his boys to plan. That being said I have taken the time to let him know what I am and am not ok with, and he will have to pass along those things to his boys. Because you never know what some of them will try to come up with or spring on him as a surprise.

I think the two of you should discuss your ground rules and limits to what is acceptable and what is not, at these parties and both pass along that information. Other then that, I think you should trust your FIs boys enough to know what he would and wouldn’t like, they are obviously close enough to be part of your big day.

Post # 8
10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Not directly but I did give my Brother-In-Law some suggestions, none of which he actually listened to. Wish he would have because then his brother (my DH) would have probably had an enjoyable time instead of texting me all night about how lame the whole thing was. 

Post # 9
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’ve casually tossed out some ideas. I think the bachelor party is going to be a tricky one for FI’s guys to pull together because despite being close, they are all so different and their ideas of enjoyable are pretty scattered.


Post # 10
4160 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Unfortunately yes I had to plan the something, otherwise he wouldn’t have gotten one.

The original plan was to go golfing, have drinks, go for dinner and drink some more, but the golfing wasn’t working out because it was the end of the season in our area, and all the courses were closed or fully booked.  So I emailed all the boys, and let them know to show up at this bar at this time, and I brought my husband – he thought it was just him and I going for dinner, but as soon as we got there, he saw his buddies and I left them for the night.

Nothing special, he’s a low-key kinda guy, but I wanted him to have SOMETHING.  The boys wouldn’t have known how to organize anything lol.

Post # 11
6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

The only thing I’ve done is to send out a group message to FH’s groomsmen to let them know that if they want me to buy FH a plane ticket or make “plans” with him so he doesn’t schedule something else during that time or drop him off somewhere then I will.  Or I will completely leave them alone and let them do their thing.  But I told them that’s the extent and I don’t want to know any details for my sake.  😉

Post # 12
235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I didn’t do any planning, but when my Fiance was saying what the options were and what he wanted to do, I encouraged him to speak up about what he wanted (he was initailly worried about stepping on his BM’s toes).  

Post # 13
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m a little worried about this, because my fiance’s brothers like to plan everything at the last minute. Everyone knows you can’t maximize your fun if you do things that way!

However, my best friend is planning an amazing weekend of fun for me. I feel bad that he won’t get the same! I might need to do a little nagging at some point.

Post # 15
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wish I had helped plan! My man’s party was really pretty lame. His groomsmen actually apoligized and want to do a do over next year….

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