Did you have clues that your SO was going to propose in the near future?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

I definitely knew it was coming because we had a timeline in place, however, my fiance STILL managed to shock me because I was absolutely certain it wasn’t going to happen on the day that it did.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

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lemondropfairy :  FH and I are also older and this is a second marriage. I knew because we openly discussed it. I didnt know exactly what day but we had an anniversary weekend planned and he told me it would happen that weekend. Dinner on Saturday night was the logical time and thats when it happened.

 

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Same here – we had previously talked about it and he knew the ring I wanted.  Even though I knew it was coming soon I was still very suprised when it did happen. 

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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lemondropfairy :  My proposal was meant to be a complete surprise, we had talked about getting married but my now husband said he’d need a couple years to save up for this and that before getting a ring.

About 6 months later he started talking more about “when we get married”, just making random comments about marriage and weddings. And then he proposed a couple months after he started making those comments.

He might be hinting at it, I don’t know why else a man would go out of his way to look at your pinterest board! 

Have you considered talking to him about a timeline or are you find just going with the flow and seeing what happens?

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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lemondropfairy :  We picked the ring together – he went back 2 weeks later and bought it. No secrets here…we have joint accounts, lol, so I knew exactly what he was doing when he said he was going to be “late home from work”

3 weeks later – talk to Dad. I saw him go to my parent’s house on the app we use that tracks our whereabouts. Next day: proposal.

No games, no fuss, no “hints” no maybe yes, maybe not. Just a honest conversation between two adults about our future together.

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Sugar Beekeeper

I knew . Well, he said , shall I go and get  that ring you liked  and we can get married with it? And he did,  so we did. Only the one ring,  just plain two tone gold .  I don’t think he actually  knew about engagement rings and I didn’t  care,  having been married with the trimmings  once before.   

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2019

I picked out my own ring. And then found it in a closet two weeks before he proposed. So… no. I was not surprised. 😂 It was still very special though.

The best thing I found was to just put it out of my mind and let him handle it. I’ve ‘waited’ for a ring before, and it was exhausting trying to analyze each and every moment. I did much better this time around and only lost my patience once; I felt bad about that later because the whole reason he had to wait was because the jeweler took foreverrrr to get the center stone set.

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Bumble bee

Well—- the part where he said “hey I’d like to talk about our future because I would like to spend life with you and I want to hear your thoughts” was a good hint.

(I kind of think adults should have an open conversation about these things)

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I proposed to my fiancé and he had NO idea it was coming. I’d shown him a few rings I liked about a year before that and bought and hid the ring before we even lived together. We agreed that we shouldn’t get engaged before having lived together for half a year – I proposed after 4 months. He never had a chance 😉

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Yeah, we had a timeline for the proposal, we both like to plan life things out in advance so neither of us would have been satisfied with a complete surprise. I was surprised that he proposed the day that he did, because I had convinced myself he wasn’t going to propose on our vacation (I both over-thought AND under-thought things lol).

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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kittymoon777 :  Same situation for me, and I think that’s the best scenario! 

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

I’m not sure why so many people misunderstand that the actual proposal can be a surprise even though you already mutually agreed that you’re on the path to getting married. My husband and I had our timeline talk when we started house hunting. While we nailed down the date we wanted to get married and what kind of ring I would like, we didn’t really discuss when a proposal would happen. But he wasted no time in having my ring made. So when the proposal came only a couple months after that talk, yes, I was completely surprised. 

To answer the OP’s question, in retrospect, it should have been obvious. He kept talking about marriage and making random comments like, “If you keep cooking so well, I’m going to have put a ring on it,” even when it was the same chicken dish that I always made. And he asked me to go on vacation at a time of year that we normally wouldn’t take a trip. But it was much sooner than I anticipated so it just wasn’t on my radar as much. My friends made me wonder if it would happen on the trip but I didn’t want to get my hopes up only to be potentially disappointed and ruin the trip, so I just went in expecting to enjoy each other and the beautiful island. The proposal was an amazing bonus.  

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Blushing bee

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newbeegirl :  I couldn’t agree more! A complete surprise with absolutely no idea is awesome in theory, but for me, did not work for my anxiety lol. I love that I had a say in the timing of our engagement but that the actual proposal managed to totally surprise me!

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