(Closed) Did you have guests come into your ceremony late?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MrsBeck:  I’m a wedding photographer and I can tell you, at like, 90% of the weddings we shoot there are always SOME people that will be late. I’d say typically it’s a small handful of guests. Like, if the guest-count is 175 about 10-15 ppl are likely to be late (many see the bride as she’s about to walk in). 

Annoying, but I guess that’s life!

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

My wedding was at 6 p.m. on the Friday of a holiday weekend, about an hour-and-a-half away (without traffic) from most of my nearest guests. There also were traffic accidents along some of the major routes to reach my venue. Yes, we definitely had some guests arriving late.

Unfortunately, no matter how well you may try to plan each detail, there are just some things that you will not be able to control.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t have a problem with people walking in after the bride and bridal party have entered. But in between the bridesmaids and bride, that is beyond rude!

Perhaps the usher(s) could stand by the door and tell late comers they have to wait? That wouldn’t stop really pushy people but I think would stop most people.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@paula1248:  and @MrsBeck:  I agree — no one should be trying to be seated between the bridesmaids and the bride processing down the aisle.

There WAS one individual who walked across the back where my bridesmaids and I were processing, and he did so between the flower girl and me — my younger stepson! He was only 11 at the time. He had been standing in his position as a junior groomsman, but, for some reason, he didn’t see the very young ring bearer and went to go look for him! Oy! LOL.  🙂

— Edited for my atrocious typos! Yikes!

 

 

 

Post # 9
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7679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Brielle:  haha, confused children get a pass!

Post # 10
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547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MrsBeck:  I haven’t gotten married yet, but I did put an earlier time on my invite than we are actually planning to start (15 mins). Many of our vendors suggested doing this and my family is notorious for being late. At first I thought that it’s annoying to make those who will be on time wait a few mins, but then I decided I’d rather have people wait a few mins than have lots of people streaming in late. And my venue will be providing beverages for those who are early, so that made me feel better about the early people. We’re also providing transportation from the hotel, so most people will come when I schedule the bus to be there lol. I imagine there will still be a few stragglers, but I think I’m going to have our venue tell the late people to wait until I’m down the aisle to take their seats. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We actually had a lot of issues with guests arriving exactly at the start time.  That was irritating…they were trying to seat our grandmothers and people kept walking in.  In fact, their processional music ended before they were actually seated.  Not sure how I could have changed that, though.  It felt weird to start our ceremony at 5:40 instead of 5:30 or to put a different time on the invite.  

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Our ceremony started about 25 minutes late due to tardy guests.  I actually had no idea we were running late because I did not have a phone or watch with me.  I think it was a mixture of some people being lost and others getting distracted by the bar area…

Luckily we weren’t on a tight deadline, the venue just pushed back our reception another half hour.  I’ve been late to a wedding once where I walked in and the bride was ready to walk down the aisle (we were from out of town and got lost).  We just backed out, waited a few minutes and then snuck in the back.

It’s annoying – but I think pretty common to start late.  Can you do any photos before hand so that it won’t impact your timeframe as much??

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Commenting to follow. I get that I can’t control everything, but how rude!! I’m worried because my ceremony will be outdoors, so it will be pretty obvious if someone is late and waiting for me to walk down the aisle.. they’ll pretty much be standing in my way! ughh… hoping people show up on time! 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

FI’s family is notoriously late for everything, especially his brother (his best man). I really want to tell people, “If you’re going to be late and it isn’t an emergency, turn around and go home,” but I won’t. I can only hope that, for our freaking wedding, they can be on time just once. I don’t think we had any problems at his cousin’s wedding, though.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Some people would be late to their own funeral. It’s super rude but what are you going to do?

Post # 16
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295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have been a late guest.  A small group of us were attending a wedding in London and our Tube train was delayed underground between stations.  The processional was over by the time we arrived.  We stood quietly at the back, since that seemed less disruptive than trying to find seats.  The delay was out of our control, but we felt bad about arriving late.

I noticed that several weddings I attended started late.  It’s only after starting my own wedding planning that I’ve realized that maybe the actual start time was intentionally later than the stated start time.  I may use that trick myself,

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