(Closed) Did you have issues getting people to come to your DW?

posted 4 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
46595 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

MrsUPS:  It would depend on how close family you are, how close to Christmas, and where the wedding is happening. Highways and air travel can both be a nightmare around Christmas.

Post # 4
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

Your family may, if they’re a) emotionally close and b) have the financial resources necessary to do so. I’d say most guests won’t, though; Christmas is the most cumbersome and expensive time of year to travel, especially for an encore wedding.

Post # 5
1995 posts
Buzzing bee

MrsUPS:  Unfortunately, OP, I don’t think we’re going to be able to give you a magic bullet answer, as it really does depend on the place of Christmas in your family’s general social life.  For a number of reasons dictated by my work and family calendar I would probably be unable to attend a wedding in December, no matter how dear the person was to me.  However, that may not be the case for your family.  Good luck with planning!

Post # 6
46595 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

MrsUPS:  As a pp has said, there will not be one answer that will be the same for everyone.

My coment about travel being a nightmare was not meant in the financial sense. Travel in general can be difficult at that time of year with flights cancelled due to weather, and roads being icy. I would never expect anyone to pay my hotel, no matter how close we are.

If you really want them all there, I would send out STD’s.  An early STD would prevent me from making a commitment to attend an event that wasn’t nearly as important to me as your wedding.

Post # 7
680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Since you’re an encore bride, I think a lot of it also depends on what kind of wedding you had the first time.  If you had a big wedding with all the bells and whistles the first time, I would imagine you would have less enthusiasm from everyone no matter what time of year you have it.

You also have to take into account the financial situation of your family.  Are they generally on the wealthier side?  If so, then finances may not be a problem.

I would not send Save-The-Date Cards or invitations early.  What if you don’t get the response you want?  Then you’d be sending out another STD or invitation with a different date?

Post # 8
2958 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I can only tell you my personal experience – I had my 2nd wedding 4 hours from my home in Las Vegas. DH’s family and friends had to take a 10 hour flight (his first wedding). Over 60 people from my side came, and 50 from his. I think the high turn out rate had a LOT to do with the fact that we chose Las Vegas. Also, it was summer. I would think that if you chose earlier in December it would be easier for family to fit in a trip out of town.

Post # 9
4056 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Why don’t you send an email and ask them? We had a Destination Wedding in another country and sent an email to the VIP people we knew we really really really wnated there and asked if it was something they would be willing to do/consider. It was the best way to actually KNOW who was in and who wasn’t able.

Post # 11
1070 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

ButterflyButterfly:  Agreed! I think it depends on your first wedding and if your attendees are doubling up.

To OP, I think it definitely depends on your location, how easy it might be to travel there, and how much time you give your attendees to plan for the event.

Good luck!

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