(Closed) Did you have second thoughts??

posted 12 years ago in Encore
Post # 16
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2922 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

Yes. I remember distinctly about a week before our wedding thinking “this is a mistake” but everything was already planned and mostly paid for and I didn’t have the courage to back out but I wish I had. We fought constantly, he was emotionally abusive and we had been hanging on out of comfort and routine for years. I didn’t feel very attracted to him anymore at that point and our sex life was minimal and things got much worse very quickly after we married. I see so many couples justifying bad relationships, that they are clearly unhappy in, and it makes me sad, because I was that person but I just didn’t know that I could find the happiness I have today.

Post # 17
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4560 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Not saying that your Fiance will someday end up physically abusing you, but screaming alone is emotional abuse. It is diesrespectful and will eventually errod your relationship. Plus, is this the role-model you want for your children? When your 4 yearold starts yelling at you like your Fiance yells at you how will you feel? (I have a friend who’s kid now treats her like her DH treats her. She has no room to disapline her because she heard (and learned) from her dad how to speak to my friend.)

Please call off the wedding and demand your Fiance get into individual counseling until he can learn how to fight fairly. 

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