(Closed) Did you have trouble picking your MOH?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Is the definition of BFF best friends FOREVER? Haha, it sounded weird to be banking on having a new “BFF” in the next year or so.
Personally, I think it depends on what your relationship with your childhood friend is like. Some people can not see each other for months/years and it’ll still be like yesterday when they see each other again. If that’s the case, then your friend would be the best option. Failing that, are any of your other bridesmaids relatives? I had my sister as my Maid/Matron of Honor so I didn’t have to choose between two friends (and also because I love my sister to pieces).

Worst case scenario, as you mentioned, just go without a Maid/Matron of Honor and divide up the Maid/Matron of Honor duties amongst the bridesmaids (e.g. one bridesmaid walks out first, another holds your bouquet, another signs the certificate, etc.).

Post # 5
1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would try to cultivate the relationships with your other bridesmaids and see where they go. If married life took your friend in a different direction, you may not be able to change that. I would say you could still ask her, but don’t overlook the potential for other great relationships around you. 

Post # 8
509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Taeyers: +1

@pokie45: I don’t really have any advice other than to agree with Taeyers. I personally didn’t have any issues in figuring out who my moh would be. Much like you, we went quite a long time without talking to eachother, but if it’s a friendship meant to be your relationship with her will always come around.

Who knows, maybe in the mean time you two start talking again? Maybe you meet someone knew who has a stronger bond with you? Only time will tell. :]

Post # 9
1348 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Not really. It was between 2 girls, both close friends. One has been my friend since I was about 3 years old, the other since about 14. The latter sort of expected to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, but I felt like she wouldn’t really take it seriously/know what to do/enjoy it, and I know she would rather be out partying than help me plan the wedding, whereas my Maid/Matron of Honor actually enjoys stuff like that and never gets on my nerves. I love them both, but it just seemed ‘right’ to pick the girl i’ve known the longest, get along with best and I know she’ll support me. I did feel a bit bad though. The other girl said ‘shotgun BM’ as soon as I told her I was engaged (presumptious, but I had planned for her to be anyway) and then when she asked who my Maid/Matron of Honor was she got a little disappointed and said she had always imagined that i’d ask her to be. I found it easy to choose, but I found it hard to execute without upsetting my friend.

Post # 10
511 posts
Busy bee

Mine was really easy… I asked my daughter who just happens to be one of my best friends.

Post # 11
260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I am actually having 2 matrons of honor; my sister and a close friend. It was a pretty easy choice for me.

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