(Closed) Did you have two or more ceremonies/receptions to accommodate your families?

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am having 2 receptions due to parents.

The first one is our real wedding- so a ceremony, dinner and dance for 40 people. Everything the way we want (well, up to the extent of our budget). We’re paying for everything.

The second is a large reception (260 people or so) in the city. We didn’t invite anyone, all guests are family or parents’ friends. They picked everything (pretty much).

On one hand, it’s great because we get to do ours just the way we want instead of having to compromise. The flip side is we had some important guests (like close cousins and aunts..the kind you see every week) choosing to go to the one in the city (as that’s where they live) and not to ‘our’ wedding. And that we are getting zero gifts because of 2 receptions (this is not a huge issue for us as we are prepared to pay for everything but where I am from, wedding gifts are on the larger side and are expected so it’s still ‘our presents’ being taken away from us).

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it is a good idea personally.  We will probably elope but have one at home reception in our back yard.  I don’t feel like putting on two separate receptions (or paying for them).  Plus I want to get out of inviting every extended cousin (I’d feel inclinded to invite them if I were having it locally to them). 

 

With your situation, I think two receptions (maybe call them Celebration Parties) would be best.  Have a slide show of your wedding/honeymoon, serve some food and drink, maybe dancing.  They key is to not try to reenact a full on wedding however.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I forgot to ask how far apart would the Canadian and New York towns be?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@jasmine.hunter: Yeah, 2 parties sound best especially if you are interested in extended family!  Is it in your budget to host two?

 

Family would have a 15 hour drive or 3 hour flight to come to our town.  We just aren’t near any family.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

It would be good to get that squared away with your Future Mother-In-Law and make sure you don’t happen to assume wrong!  Instead of asking her (which they say don’t do), you could say, “OH that all sounds lovely, but we won’t be able to afford that idea.”  If she’s going to pitch in this is where she’ll speak up.  Good luck!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I have had 3 receptions, now planning the 4th.

The upcoming one in Apr is a Destination Wedding in Italy where we are paying and going the whole nine yards with ceremony (symbolic), reception, cake, dance etc. It will be a small wedding – 20guests.

First 3 were compromises. Where I come from, regular sized weddings are 500 guests. Hated that idea, though parents would have gladly paid. Conspired with mom, dad finally agreed to let us have a Destination Wedding under the condition that we have dinners with our family. Our family is huge, and mom & dad are from different countries, therefore 3 dinners in 3 countries to fulfill both maternal & paternal family duties.

Now civally married, I look forward to Apr where I get to wear the white dress for the 1st time. Past 3 were cocktail dress situations. 

I don’t complain because it was a big compromise for my parents to agree to this. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@redband:  Why won’t you get any gifts because of having 2 receptions?

We’re having a Destination Wedding & an AHR in Atlanta for our extended families.  We briefly thought about having 2 AHRs in each of our home towns, but then just decided to have one where we both live now. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Because most of the guests will be going for both and because the first (the one with 40 guests) is a semi-destination wedding.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We are having a reception at our Destination Wedding and an AHR back in our hometown area.  

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