(Closed) Did you have your parents support?

posted 6 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 3
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1359 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Fiance and I are lucky, and both of our families are supportive. I get the sense that with my FI’s family, our wedding is “less than” a “normal” wedding, but they are happy for us and ask about the plans, etc.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If I have a son or a daughter someday that is gay/lesbian, they will have nothing but support from me.

I’m straight, but all LGBTQ couples have my support.

 

@lybarra:  

@moonadea:  It makes me so sad that people still feel this way. How could you be anything less than overjoyed when your child finds love?! (barring some child-abuser/criminal or something)

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

In my case, it’s complicated.  My parents are totally unconcerned with the gender of my spouse.  It’s just everything else about me my mother disklikes.  And changing things doesn’t help.  At one point, she was upset with me because I wore jeans instead of skirts.  She told me my butt was too big for me to wear pants.  Later, when I became an attorney, I started wearing skirt suits.  Then she told me I was too superficial and materialistic, as indicated by my wearing “designer clothing.”  (Umm, no, none of my clothing actually even qualified as “designer.”)  She never much liked my ex-husband while I was married to him.  However, when he left me, she told everyone that it was only a surprise he hadn’t left years before, I was such a bad wife.

I finally gave up back in 1994, and cut off communication with my mother.  As a practical matter, that has meant that I rarely see my father, either, since he won’t go where she isn’t invited.  He knows that my wife and I are married, because he and I communicate by e-mail, and I assume he has told her.  But they were not invited to our wedding.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@lybarra:  Between us we only have my mum alive … She loves my girlfriend and so does all my family ….. They love her he’s wise she makes me happy … My children are going to be involves in our wedding too … Even thou my daughter just a year ago would not accept her mum was a lesbian … Most of our sibling will be coming except one on either side but we both have 4 sibling so still a high turn  out 

Post # 9
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1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It has taken my Mom some time to come around, but after she met Fiance and we announced our engagement we have become closer since she’s helping us plan our wedding. Fiance on the otherhand comes from a long line of queers and has a gay father, so when she came out at the same time I did, it went over a lot better on her side. Her Mom was unhappy and convinced that her father “made her that way”, but she has also come around.

 

Post # 10
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2934 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I just wanted to say I’m really sorry your mom isn’t more supportive, that stinks. Is there any chance they’d consider going to some PFLAG meetings or something? Maybe it would help.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Im sorry the couples who are having a hard time with this have to go through that. 

I agree with @MissCarnival, if my son or daughter happen to choose to be gay then Im all there for them. I love my babies and I cant wait to see he choices they make as adults and I will support them no matter what they are. 

Post # 12
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1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m an ally, but my sister is a lesbian and my entire family loves, supports, and adores her Girlfriend (and we all are urging them to get married, they’re so good together).  The GF’s parents…are less supportive. They basically said “we wish you were straight, but since you’re clearly living with a woman we want you to know we like her as a person.”  I’m pretty sure that when they do get married, my sister’s Future In-Laws won’t help in planning in any way, probably won’t invite many (or any) guests, but we’re pretty sure they’ll show up at least. At least my family is totally up for it!

Post # 13
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40 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@NCPwedding:  Peopdo do not choose to be gay 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Im sorry to hear this. My mom, although she has come a long way, is still working on her support. She is generally unhappy and disapproving but at least she knows she should be supportive and tries her best. She knows we are engaged and doesn;t acknowledge it. I don’t know if she will come to our wedding once we set a date and start planning. I know how you feel.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My mother is super supportive. loves my fiance and thinks shes made me a better person (which she has) the rest of my familys very religious and wont be attending the wedding but all have met her and love her for the person she is because she has an amazing heart and treats me great. Her family on the other hand not so much. Her dads a johavia witness( not sure how u spell that) hes a veery nice man who welcomes me as his daughter into their family and refers to us as “his girls” but her mother (parents divorced) is a catholic and it breaks her heart and has yet to met me and rather pretend her daughter is a straight single women. neither will be attending the wedding but her sister is VERY supportive and will walk her down the isle and her cousins will be attending too.

Its sad that some parents cant just suck up there own issues for a day to make there little girl happy :/

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