- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Yes, we do. We are very fortunate.
Yes, we do. We are very fortunate.
I’m sad to hear all of these stories of unsupportive families and parents 🙁 when we have children, if they’re gay or straight or bi or asexual or whatever, we will support and celebrate them no matter what. there is already so much hate all around in the world – anytime we can support love, we should!
@moj1966: Too right they don’t!
My Fiance and I are both very lucky in that we have supportive parents, although, as another poster said…my mom diapproves of me and the choices I make in my life. It really doesn’t help that my sister is perfect and shits sunshine as far as my mom is concerned…oh well…at least my sis and I are good to go!
Not sure if I can play, but it’s about my sexuality and my marriage and my parents, and something I haven’t gotten off my chest yet.
I’m bisexual (or that’s the closest classification to what I feel my orientation is) and by coincidence mostly I’m marrying a man. I know that if I were with a woman instead, I would not have my dad’s support at all, it would be a huge shitstorm, and I might be pushed out of the family to prevent it getting around. And I beleive part of the reason that my parents are so surprisingly supportive of my relationship (relatively speaking) is because they’re releived that I ended up with a guy at all (and a guy with straight parents this time too!) It’s really sickening to me that this is the case.
It’s been two months since the proposal and my parents still haven’t asked a single thing about the wedding. I figure they will just get a save the date card like everyone else and find out all the info then. It’s up to them to decide if they want to show. My Fiance is also in the same situation as me.
There is good news though, when my Fiance asked her sister to be Maid/Matron of Honor her sister said she needed to think about it because she was still unsure how she felt about it and didn’t want to agree to be the Maid/Matron of Honor unless she felt comfortable fully supporting it. After a month of hearing nothing we figured it was no. Then one day my Fiance got a card in the mail with a beautiful necklace, the card said that she would be happy to be her Maid/Matron of Honor. My Fiance was over the moon, she is so happy that her sister has decided to be in the wedding and support our relationship.
that’s great news about her sister!
it still astounds me that so many queer American couples have to deal with unsupportive or downright hostile families… I just don’t hear about it up here. I hope your parents come around.
I just wanted to update saying that my mom finally asked me about the wedding! She asked about everything, flowers, food, venue, date… It’s a small thing, but I’m so excited about it. She also said that she would help out where she could. I’m guessing my sister finally got through to her.
@lybarra: :D! Congratulations! You say it’s a small thing, but I don’t think that’s true. The interest may be about small things, but the interest itself is by no means small. I’m so happy for you that she’s coming around, and good for your sister for getting her there. It sucks that she needed that push, but it’s great that she was open to it happening to get her where she is now. Yay!
@lybarra: That’s so wonderful!! Patience and persistence really does work. I had to work my ass off to win over FI’s less-than-supportive parents. Who like me but are still completely unapproving.. Future Mother-In-Law says “Accepting, but not approving.” (Don’t even get me started!) But after working so hard I know exactly how exciting those small steps they take are! So happy for you!
Thanks 🙂 My mom did say she’s still adjusting to me getting married, but I know that she’s trying. Part of what really hurt me is that she paid for all of my sisters wedding and helped her plan it and for the past three months she’d never even asked me if I’d set a date. My Fiance are set on paying for and planning everything ourselves, but I still want my moms support. I was worried she wasn’t even going to show up, at least now I know she’s really trying.
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