Post # 1
I think it’d be so fun to have an engagement party, just to celebrate! But I’m not sure if my parents or anyone else would throw us one. Just curious how common they are!
Also, if you had one or are having one, how soon after you got engaged did it happen?
Post # 3
we didn’t… i think because we are having a really long engagement. plus no one offered to throw one, and we didn’t feel like throwing one ourselves at the time. i guess it would have been nice, but we’ll have enough parties that i don’t think we’re missing out! 🙂
Post # 4
My Future Mother-In-Law is throwing one for us. Just immediate family though. And it will be fairly causal – outdoors at their house. Just like our wedding and the bridal luncheon! I love to be outside in Summer 🙂
We got engaged in Feb and she is having it in June. The wedding is in August. We would have had it sooner but she wanted to make sure my mom could be there so we scheduled it around when my mom would be up visiting us.
Post # 5
My SO’s family are the party types, so I’m sure we’ll have one. Looking forward to it 🙂
Post # 6
Ours in on June 8!!
I wanted one, and then I realized logistically, the traditional parents/FILs hosting wouldn’t work (parents are out of town while all other family/friends are where I live, and i didn’t want to burden them, and the Future In-Laws only have a small condo…)
I was more than fine hosting my own, just a casual BBQ, but we are in an apartment and are not allowed to bbq on the balconies! 🙁 so that was out.
Then one of my old university roommates suggested our old student house. My one friend stayed there as still owns it and said she’d be more than happy to! Plus it adds sentimental value because we met at a birthday party at my student house 🙂
So long story short: yes, we’re having one, but it’s just a casual BBQ and only “young adults”/friends only… families would’ve just been difficult to plan, and this way we can drink our faces off haha
EDIT: We said “your presence is the only gift we request!” or something like that… I don’t think gifts are required/expected especially for engagement parties. it’s simply a casual get-together.. plus the fact ours is friends-only, I think we’ll be good 🙂 It’s also nice to have an engagement party when you’re having a long engagement! Since i won’t be having a shower for probably another year… sigh lol
Post # 7
I personally am not a fan of engagement parties. On top of the shower, bachelorette, and the wedding, it feels annoying to have to buy another gift.
Post # 8
No, I didn’t want one. I figured the wedding reception would be the party to celebrate the union. I like celebrating each occasion (two people getting married, new baby born, etc., ONCE).
Post # 9
We had one.. a bunch of our really good friends decided to host us one ! It was one of the nicest things anyone has ever done for us !
it was nothing fancy just good friends, family and some finger food and lots of drinks ! I loved everything about !
OO and they bought disposable cameras and everyone took pictures people could delete.. and got everyone to sign scrapbook pages to put the pictures on!! it was the sweetest thing ever !
you should do it we had so much fun at ours
Post # 10
My mom threw us a surprise one like 5/6 days after we got engaged.
Post # 11
We weren’t really planning on doing an engagement party or a shower, but my Aunt really wants to throw us one. It will pretty much just be a big family cookout, and just a reason for our family to get together that isn’t on Thanksgiving or Christmas. It will be in July, so 2 months before the wedding.
Post # 12
@kb7: Mine wasn’t until three months after we got engaged, but that was the soonest we could get everyone together after the holidays. My parents threw it for us. We did it at a restaurant, but I actually would have preferred to do it at someone’s house.
Post # 13
We didn’t have one. We got engaged on Christmas and we’re getting married in August. If we were planning to have a longer engagement (about a year) then we probably would have planned for an egagement party.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I’ve never been to one myself. I know some people who have had casual get togethers at their house shortly after the engagement; but wouldn’t call it an engagement party.
Post # 15
No because I didn’t want it to look like I was fishing for gifts.
Post # 16
Our engagement party was a dinner party at our favorite restaurant, hosted by my parents, no gifts, immediate immediate family only.
I am kinda torn on whether we should have had kids though. I am glad the kids got to meet each other (my DS and his nephews), but my Fiance and I wound up being the babysitters.
It was fine, it allowed our families to talk and get to know one another, but we didn’t get to interact much with the grownups.