(Closed) Did you have/are you having an engagement party?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Did you have/are you having an engagement party?
    Yes : (77 votes)
    33 %
    Yes but I wish we didn't : (2 votes)
    1 %
    No : (128 votes)
    55 %
    No, but I wish we did : (27 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    2203 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    we didn’t… i think because we are having a really long engagement. plus no one offered to throw one, and we didn’t feel like throwing one ourselves at the time.  i guess it would have been nice, but we’ll have enough parties that i don’t think we’re missing out! πŸ™‚

    Post # 4
    507 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My Future Mother-In-Law is throwing one for us.  Just immediate family though. And it will be fairly causal – outdoors at their house.  Just like our wedding and the bridal luncheon!  I love to be outside in Summer πŸ™‚

    We got engaged in Feb and she is having it in June.  The wedding is in August.  We would have had it sooner but she wanted to make sure my mom could be there so we scheduled it around when my mom would be up visiting us.

    Post # 5
    2755 posts
    Sugar bee

    My SO’s family are the party types, so I’m sure we’ll have one. Looking forward to it πŸ™‚

    Post # 6
    512 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Ours in on June 8!!

    I wanted one, and then I realized logistically, the traditional parents/FILs hosting wouldn’t work (parents are out of town while all other family/friends are where I live, and i didn’t want to burden them, and the Future In-Laws only have a small condo…)

    I was more than fine hosting my own, just a casual BBQ, but we are in an apartment and are not allowed to bbq on the balconies! πŸ™ so that was out.

    Then one of my old university roommates suggested our old student house. My one friend stayed there as still owns it and said she’d be more than happy to! Plus it adds sentimental value because we met at a birthday party at my student house πŸ™‚

    So long story short: yes, we’re having one, but it’s just a casual BBQ and only “young adults”/friends only… families would’ve just been difficult to plan, and this way we can drink our faces off haha

    EDIT: We said “your presence is the only gift we request!” or something like that… I don’t think gifts are required/expected especially for engagement parties. it’s simply a casual get-together.. plus the fact ours is friends-only, I think we’ll be good πŸ™‚ It’s also nice to have an engagement party when you’re having a long engagement! Since i won’t be having a shower for probably another year… sigh lol


    Post # 7
    3572 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I personally am not a fan of engagement parties.  On top of the shower, bachelorette, and the wedding, it feels annoying to have to buy another gift. 

    Post # 8
    6355 posts
    Bee Keeper

    No, I didn’t want one. I figured the wedding reception would be the party to celebrate the union. I like celebrating each occasion (two people getting married, new baby born, etc., ONCE).

    Post # 9
    65 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We had one.. a bunch of our really good friends decided to host us one ! It was one of the nicest things anyone has ever done for us !

     it was nothing fancy just good friends, family and some finger food and lots of drinks ! I loved everything about !

    OO and they bought disposable cameras and everyone took pictures people could delete.. and got everyone to sign scrapbook pages to put the pictures on!! it was the sweetest thing ever !

    you should do it we had so much fun at ours

    Post # 10
    5800 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My mom threw us a surprise one like 5/6 days after we got engaged.

    Post # 11
    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We weren’t really planning on doing an engagement party or a shower, but my Aunt really wants to throw us one.  It will pretty much just be a big family cookout, and just a reason for our family to get together that isn’t on Thanksgiving or Christmas.  It will be in July, so 2 months before the wedding.


    Post # 12
    477 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @kb7:  Mine wasn’t until three months after we got engaged, but that was the soonest we could get everyone together after the holidays. My parents threw it for us. We did it at a restaurant, but I actually would have preferred to do it at someone’s house.

    Post # 13
    3823 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We didn’t have one. We got engaged on Christmas and we’re getting married in August. If we were planning to have a longer engagement (about a year) then we probably would have planned for an egagement party.

    Post # 14
    9139 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    I’ve never been to one myself.  I know some people who have had casual get togethers at their house shortly after the engagement; but wouldn’t call it an engagement party.

    Post # 15
    8471 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    No because I didn’t want it to look like I was fishing for gifts.

    Post # 16
    2224 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Our engagement party was a dinner party at our favorite restaurant, hosted by my parents, no gifts, immediate immediate family only.

    I am kinda torn on whether we should have had kids though. I am glad the kids got to meet each other (my DS and his nephews), but my Fiance and I wound up being the babysitters.

    It was fine, it allowed our families to talk and get to know one another, but we didn’t get to interact much with the grownups.

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