Did you help choose your ring? Show me your engagement ring!

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 92
383 posts
Helper bee

My fiancé wanted me to choose my own ring, but it was important to me that he also like it. I showed him this one and luckily he loved it as much as I did and thought it was very “me”, so he went ahead and bought it! I’m so happy with it and so grateful, I’m still blown away by its beauty.

Post # 93
1162 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

woodscommaelle :  When my husband and I were talking about getting engaged, we went and looked at rings together. I tried on a handful and then narrowed it down to three that I really liked and he got to choose the final ring. That way, I had a say in the style I wanted but it would still be a surprise. I’m really glad that we did it that way too!



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Post # 94
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

My fiance knew I wanted a round solitaire, and he knew I really wanted a ring from Birks (my grandfather was an apprentice at Birks before the war, where he was trained as a silversmith).  He went to Birks without my knowing and ended up choosing a round solitaire set in platinum.  My ring has 5 prongs, which is why he chose it.  He said it was so unique compared to the other solitaires he looked at.  He honestly couldn’t have chosen a more perfect ring for me!

Post # 95
346 posts
Helper bee

bluecutie00 :  Love that your hubby got some sparkle with his ring – it’s not fair women always get the diamonds and men don’t 😉 

Your ring is gorgeous as well!

Post # 96
24 posts


This is is a photo of my fiancée and my rings! I proposed to her on Thanksgiving Day in Iceland, and she proposed to me today in a cabin on one of the Finger Lakes in NY! We both already had the diamond center stones from our families, and both wanted rose gold. We had the same fabulous jeweler on Etsy design both rings. My fiancée wanted a nature inspired ring and her design was pretty much a surprise! I knew she wanted sapphires in there somehow and for it to have whimsical leaves. She knew when I was proposing though. She guessed and I’m terrible at lying. My ring was less of a surprise as I knew it was going to be a round bezel set solitaire, but the diamond stones on the side of the bezel were a surprise! Her proposal trip was a complete surprise! We both work for the same organization and I thought we were on the way to work but she took a different turn and we drove upstate NY so I could see my childhood horse and we could spend the weekend in the mountains together. We both love that our rings are unique but compliment each other and we’re made and designed by the same person, who was abolutely wonderful to work with! Highly recommend Annie from YerazCollection on Etsy!

Post # 97
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I picked out my diamond from a jeweler. I knew I wanted at least a 2ct diamond and the only way we could afford one was if it was purchased at a good deal through an estate sale. So the jeweler acquired a few round brilliant diamonds around 2ct for me to look at, and I picked my favorite one that spoke to me the most. Then I asked that it be set in a plain yellow gold band, which my fiancé was happy to oblige because I think that’s literally the cheapest band you can purchase. I wanted all the money spent on the diamond itself- figuring I could always upgrade the band some year if I wanted to but I honestly prefer it classical and simple how it is. The ring was made, I never saw it after choosing the diamond till he proposed several months later when the time was right. Even though I “chose” it, it was still very much a surprise, and I got EXACTLY what I wanted, which for that amount of (joint) money spent I’m so happy I got a say in it. This isn’t the best photo, it’s much more sparkly but it’s dim in my house right now 😉 


Post # 98
2 posts
  • Wedding: October 2019

Ours is funny.I went to a mall with a friend because she wanted to look at rings She was in love with ( not so funny) a married man. I strolled around and spotted a tiny ring that I fell in love with But I kept that to myself 

I was dating ( my now husband) and he asked what I had done that day And I told him … I was sitting on his lap It was a very casual conversation Right then and there he called the jewellers and bought the ring 

I thought it was a joke We headed to the jewellers He saw the ring and started laughing saying Omg it NEEDS a diamond. It did but granted it was tiny 

FF to this evening  After 20 years He re proposed ( with a Vera Wang ring) And yes yes yes I will marry him again !


Post # 101
20 posts

imageI designed my own – I’m pretty particular, so as soon as he started talking about getting engaged I let him know that this would be my preference. It’s not what he would have chosen off his own bat, but he thinks its lovely – even if he does keep asking me if I’m quite sure that I didn’t want a diamond instead!

Post # 102
2 posts
  • Wedding: October 2020

This is my ring! Me and my Fiance chose our rings together, hers is more of a traditional ring, and for me while I adore them they feel funny of me about six months out of the year. This one I know I’ll love year-round. I’m simple at heart 🙂


Post # 103
236 posts
Helper bee

woodscommaelle :  I too am design-oriented so I would have had to be involved in choosing, so I was. Turns out I did it on my own, which I feel worked out better because I got to do the shopping (that he would have hated to do) where I could look around, think it over, look again, or whatever. So I chose what I wanted, he gave me the money, and I picked it up and took it home and gave it to him. He surprised me by getting down on one knee and proposing, so I didn’t have to wait at all!! I did cheat on the way home by wearing it in the car (!). Plus I’m not in my 20s so the whole proposal surprise thing is just not important to me anymore like it might have been then (that happens when you get older, things just don’t matter as much).

What ever way people choose to do it is right for them. I just feel personally that things like jewelry (even clothes) is such a big purchase that it’s very hard for another person to pick it for you. I wouldn’t even want the responsibility of helping a man pick it for my best friend even when I knew her well. Or maybe she would like something better. There are just so many factors involved, like a ring might look perfect and you love it behind the glass, but when you put it on your own finger, it’s just not the right one. That is what a Fiance or other person cannot know. A lot of times the man will like one ring that you aren’t that fond of, and vice versa. I know my husband was relieved to not be tasked with the choice.

That said though, we did pick our wedding rings together so we had final say over what we wanted for ourselves.

Post # 104
873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

My fiance and I both have strong opinions about rings.  Thankfully our opinions were more or less aligned (the only thing I nixed was the notion of a marquise diamond.  Otherwise I told him things I liked (thin band, vintage-inspired, some visual interest in the band but not so much it took away from the center stone) and he ran from there.  I love the ring he picked out.  I initially thought I wanted a different style but it’s absolutely perfect and fits my brief to a tee.

Post # 105
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

xjsbellamias13 :  amazing!!! What are the specs on that ring if you don’t mind my asking? Apologies if someone else has asked!

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