Post # 17
We’ve been living together for years, so I’m cutting him off until the wedding (3 mo total). This will be the longest 3 months of our lives!!
Wanted to make the wedding night extra special though 🙂 Or wedding morning, in case we just go to our room after the reception and pass out! Haha
Post # 18
3 months! Holy crap! It took A LOT of convincing but I talked Fiance into 3 weeks, lol.
Post # 19
Yep, HE cut me off 2 MONTHS before the wedding! We broke down 2 weeks later though, so I guess we only had 6 weeks of pre-wedding celibacy. Still too much, in my opinion!
Post # 20
very true. we were both virgins until 3 years into our relationship, and then after the “deed”, I was like …. that was the huge fuss? wtf I have more important things to worry about.
no we didn’t hold out. we were doing it the day before! ahaha!
Post # 21
celibate =/= virgin. Celibate means you’re not a virgin but have decided to abstain from sex until you get married.
ETA: sorry I see this was cleared up.
Post # 22
Absolutely not, I don’t understand the point. In my relationship, sex after not having it for awhile (like a week) is great, fun and fast, but that isn’t what I want for my wedding night. We will probably be having sex in the morning, since we are staying together the night before. If it happens on our wedding night then that is even better but I expect it will be romantic and intimate, not like frantic sex-starved sex that we have after too long apart.
Obviously its different for everyone, but yeah..not for me.
Post # 23
My fiance and I stopped long before the wedding for spiritual reasons. Although there have been a couple slip ups since, but no actual sex and I intend to not have any more slip ups.
Post # 24
I didn’t vote…
Nothing changed. We had sex if we wanted to, we didn’t if it wasn’t a priority for us. Neither of us made plans, worked out a schedule… or kept track of when it did happen in the time leading up to the Wedding. ???!
I have to say as “the old broad” around here, I never understand all these topics obsessed with sexuality.
It is just ONE MORE element of being human… and in a healthy relationship.
It is a beautiful thing… but not an EXTRAORDINARY thing.
People around the world have sex every day… there are people doing it somewhere every frickin second.
I think that mirabell35:
has a very mature outlook on it all considering she stated she was a Virgin when she married less than a year ago…
It is fun, but what the heck is the big fuss about… there are far more important things in life !!
Lol… As they say… stay calm, carry on. As you were.
Post # 25
I can’t vote. We abstained for three months prior to our wedding night, but it was DH’s idea, not mine.
Post # 26
No – we didn’t. It wasn’t that we couldn’t have had we wanted to but we really just didn’t see the point. I personally don’t think it would have made our wedding night any more special.
Hell – we even jumped each other after we got back from the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding (before going to our separate hotel rooms for the night). One last hurrah before we were husband and wife!
Post # 27
We’re trying the same. We cheated a few times since getting engaged, but it’s helped that he’s been deployed for the past 4 months lol. It’ll be really tough when he gets back though, when he’s been surrounded by a bunch of men for so long and hasn’t seen me in just as long.
Just gotta think:
two more weeks, two more weeks, two more weeks!
Post # 28
Sounds like the perfect way to have a 2min wedding night.
Post # 29
We stopped having sex for seven months before the wedding. We did everything except sex.
Post # 31
I’m not married yet, but we won’t be abstaining before the wedding…what’s the point?