(Closed) Did you hold out before the wedding??

• JenJenx
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: June 2014

• AcheneMalefic
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: March 2009

We did, for about a month before the wedding. Then we had sex once (wedding night) and have only had sex once since then (December). There are issues behind it though, and our reasoning was not because we wanted to hold out. (We do have other forms of intimacy, on the regular, that DH jokingly calls “our sex” lol)

• MsSparklyBee
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2013

Not married yet but no way we’d “withhold” sex. We have sex too often, he’d probably die & on our wedding night lol. I don’t want quickie sex aka there’s been no sex in a month lol. Whenever I hear people say they don’t see what the fuss is about sex. I always think of when harry met sally…. “you’ve clearly never had great sex”. 

• MsSparklyBee
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2013

Whoops! Double post!

• MsSparklyBee
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2013

• seAprilbride
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: April 2013

I’m not going to deliberately say “no sex” but I doubt we will have the energy for it in the few days leading up to the wedding anyway.  I think he and I both agreed that we didn’t want to have sex RIGHT before the wedding, but really, who cares?  I have a special surprise for him on our wedding night that should make it different than our normal sex, so that’s about the most I think I need to do, plus we will be in a fancy hotel room instead of at home. 

Personally, I think the wedding is a big enough deal by itself that I don’t feel that need to make “other things super different” … like not having moved in together or being virgins or whatever.  Being legally married and going through our wedding is BIG.  Regardless of whether we already live together (we’ve been living together for close to 2 years) or have sex (we’ve been having sex longer than that lol)… it’s still very important and special.

• BookishBelle
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: January 2013

Nope. Well, we didn’t the few days before the wedding only because we had a semi-destination wedding and were in separate hotel rooms sharing w/ our bridal party the two nights before the wedding, but the day before we left (so maybe 3 days before the wedding?) we definitely had an official “Last un-married sex in our apartment” date. And didn’t intentionally withold before then either.

• subola
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2013 - Franklin Plaza

This is an interesting thread.  I’d like to say that we will hold out, but don’t know if we’ll actually be able to. 

• emmalyn
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: August 2014

I am missing something. If you’ve already been having sex (I don’t mean like, did it once), why would you decide to stop prior to the wedding for any length of time? This makes no sense to me.