(Closed) Did you hold out before the wedding??

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Did you hold out? If so how long?

    Nope! Why bother?

    Yes. I cut him off before the wedding.

    I did cut him off from sex but took care of him in other ways.

    I cut him off for less than week before

    I cut him off for 1-2 weeks before the wedding

    I cut him off for more than 2 weeks

    We didn't have sex before marriage.

  • Post # 32
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    @mirabell35:  YES!!!!

    Post # 33
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    We did, for about a month before the wedding. Then we had sex once (wedding night) and have only had sex once since then (December). There are issues behind it though, and our reasoning was not because we wanted to hold out. (We do have other forms of intimacy, on the regular, that DH jokingly calls “our sex” lol)

    Post # 34
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Not married yet but no way we’d “withhold” sex. We have sex too often, he’d probably die & on our wedding night lol. I don’t want quickie sex aka there’s been no sex in a month lol. Whenever I hear people say they don’t see what the fuss is about sex. I always think of when harry met sally…. “you’ve clearly never had great sex”. 

    Post # 35
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Whoops! Double post!

    Post # 37
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m not going to deliberately say “no sex” but I doubt we will have the energy for it in the few days leading up to the wedding anyway.  I think he and I both agreed that we didn’t want to have sex RIGHT before the wedding, but really, who cares?  I have a special surprise for him on our wedding night that should make it different than our normal sex, so that’s about the most I think I need to do, plus we will be in a fancy hotel room instead of at home. 

    Personally, I think the wedding is a big enough deal by itself that I don’t feel that need to make “other things super different” … like not having moved in together or being virgins or whatever.  Being legally married and going through our wedding is BIG.  Regardless of whether we already live together (we’ve been living together for close to 2 years) or have sex (we’ve been having sex longer than that lol)… it’s still very important and special.

    Post # 38
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Nope. Well, we didn’t the few days before the wedding only because we had a semi-destination wedding and were in separate hotel rooms sharing w/ our bridal party the two nights before the wedding, but the day before we left (so maybe 3 days before the wedding?) we definitely had an official “Last un-married sex in our apartment” date. And didn’t intentionally withold before then either.

    Post # 39
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Franklin Plaza

    This is an interesting thread.  I’d like to say that we will hold out, but don’t know if we’ll actually be able to. 

    Post # 40
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I am missing something. If you’ve already been having sex (I don’t mean like, did it once), why would you decide to stop prior to the wedding for any length of time? This makes no sense to me.

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