(Closed) Did you include your parents names on invite? Did they expect it?

posted 7 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Did you include your parents names on the invite?

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  • Post # 17
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @engleman10513:  We’re paying for the entire wedding, so only our names are on the invite.

    Post # 18
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    Sugar bee

    We didn’t. DH’s parents are not together and he felt the invitation would look awkward with both his mom’s name and his dad’s/stepmom’s name. My parents understood the situation and didn’t care. We just wrote “Together with their families, Ms.GeekChic & Mr. GeekChic invite you to share in their special day…”

     

    Post # 19
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We put my parents because they were the “hosts” Aka, the ones paying.

     

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I plan on having my parents on there because they are paying for it. My wedding is so far off that I’m not sure if his parents are contributing, if they do then I’ll include them on it.  If we were paying for it ourselves then neither would be on it.

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

    We did the generic ‘together with their families’.

    Post # 22
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    We did “together with our parents”. Like many, we paid for most ourselves (though my dad contributed some money, he has had nothing to do with the planning, and no interest, so he’s not exactly “hosting”) and have split family/step-parent that complicates wording and makes the invite too busy. I didn’t think to ask anyone if they minded, but just put in the order yesterday, so hoping it’s not an issue. At this point, I’m not even going to bring it up, since it’s too late. Fingers crossed that no one expected to be named specifically.

    Post # 23
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    7547 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    We just put “Together with their families Bride and Groom invite you…” It gets the point across without fussing over the name details. 

    Post # 24
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We didn’t. We’re hosting, with our parents gifting us certain things. I did ask my dad if he had any feelings about it, he didn’t. Mostly I couldn’t find a non-sad way to include my mom who passed away a few years ago. I ran it past Future Mother-In-Law too, just to make sure she was OK with it, she was, especially when I told her my reasoning. Didn’t ask Future Father-In-Law, figured if Future Mother-In-Law thought he’d care she’d of told me when I asked her. If anybody had strong feelings we probably would have.  

    Post # 25
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My parents are paying for the wedding, but I didn’t put their names on the invitation.  Instead we said Our names together with their parents cordiallly invite you blah blah.  Even though my parents are paying, the invitation wasn’t FROM them, and we also didn’t want to alienate his parents since they are just as supportive of our marriage.

    Post # 26
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

     My parents hosted, so it goes without saying that their names were on the invite.

    Post # 27
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    my mom paid for our reception and i didn’t include her name. she didn’t care. and i don’t think is especially nice to make known who’s paying.

    Post # 28
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I will include both sets of parents names because that’s the type of affair our wedding is and both sets of parents are contributing hugely to our wedding!

    Post # 29
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We are paying for the entire thing and having such a small wedding, that we are only having our names on the invite. At first I thought we might do the “together with their families” thing, but we are only having about 30 people at the wedding and most of them ARE family so that seemed silly.

    Post # 30
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We used “together with their families.” We did not ask them. We are paying for most of this, though FI’s parents are helping out some. I think it would have been awkward to put his mom’s, dad’s, and stepmom’s names on there and not list my mother, and I did not want to list her on there.

    Post # 31
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We said my parents names cordially invite you to celebrate the marriage of their daughter… Etc etc… We were told that was the formal way to do it, but my FH and I paid for the wedding almost completely by ourselves, so we should probably have put “together with their parents” but to be honest… I didn’t care about the wording of the invitation, I just wanted them sent out already, haha!

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