(Closed) Did you include your parents names on invite? Did they expect it?

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  • Post # 47
    844 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I just put “Together with their parents”.  I didn’t want to clutter up my invite with so many parents names.  I think it briefly irritated my dad who did pay for the majority of the wedding.  But not enough for it to really bother him.  If I had put his name, I would feel obligated to put my mom who I don’t get along with and didn’t help at all.  So, I just felt that was the best solution.

    Post # 48
    1108 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We did not put our parents’ names, or “together with their families” because it was something that I felt strongly about, as we are paying for and planning the wedding ourselves.

    Post # 49
    3459 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My parents strongly requested/expected to have their names on the invitation as hosts even though it was a combo of us, my parents and his.  We kept the peace and had them that way after checking with his parents to be sure they didn’t mind (thankfully.)  In the end, my parents paid less than promised, gave less than DH’s parents and invited more guests so we wished we hadn’t given in.  We printed our own so it would have been easy to even have two sets of invitations but we didn’t (other than an accident using the prior version on a few and not wanting to redo the hours of work for the pocketfold invites).

    To deal with DH’s divored parents it went like this:

    dad and mom kay01 request…

    their daughter

    Kay01 to

    husband name,

    son of

    husband’s mom and

    husband’s dad and stepmom


    Post # 50
    3765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    This is the sample of the invite we used,  and we added, “together with their parents (bride’s parents) and (groom’s parents)” I really liked how it turned out! It was important to me to include them since they helped pay for the wedding, but I wanted DH and I’s names to be the focus since we paid for most.


    Post # 51
    40 posts
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We put our names first, then “together with their parents” and then named both sets of parents. We are all the hosts, we are all contributing.

    Post # 52
    1332 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    With all the parents due to divorce if we had put them on the invite it would have taken up the entire thing.  We just put something along the lines of “with their parents”

    Post # 53
    1548 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My parents are hosting, so their names were on our invitation. Their address was also used for the save the dates and RSVP cards. 

    Post # 54
    2624 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We are going to use “together with their families” because we are paying. I’m not asking my parents about it.

    Post # 55
    854 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We’re hosting, we’re paying (100%) so only our names are on it.  My parents haven’t even met my Fiance so it would be inappropriate in so many ways for us. 

    Post # 56
    718 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    We have a “Together with their families” on ours.  Both sides are contributing.

    Post # 57
    2490 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    No, it’s both of our second weddings and didn’t feel appropriate to put our parents names on there. No one has said anything so I don’t know how they feel about it.

    Post # 58
    854 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    @orchidaloha:  No, it’s both of our second weddings and didn’t feel appropriate to put our parents names on there. No one has said anything so I don’t know how they feel about it.

    That too…

    Post # 59
    1302 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We used:

    Together with
    [Bride’s parents]
    [Groom’s mom]


    request the pleasure of your company… yadda yadda

    We paid for about half the wedding, so I felt this was appropriate.

    My mother said that she had never seen a wedding invitation that DIDN’T imply have the parents doing the inviting.  I was really annoyed by that comment even though I think she just didn’t realize the meaning behind that sort of wording.

    Post # 60
    15 posts
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We didn’t include parent names because we felt like it was too formal and traditional. Future Mother-In-Law had a bit of a fit about this, because she thought parent names should be included. However our invitation had already been designed and we would have had to change the whole design. Plus, his parents are divorced so we would have had to put 3 sets of names on it (everyone is helping financially) and I didn’t want parent names to take up half the invitation. She eventually realized how ridiculous she was acting, and everything turned out fine. 

    Post # 61
    1143 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We did. I don’t know if they expected it, but any wedding invite I’ve ever received had parents’ names included. I think it helps too when you invite your parents’ friends who may not remember you, haha.

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