(Closed) Did you include your parents names on invite? Did they expect it?

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  • Post # 62
    110 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I didn’t include mine. They didn’t pay for all the wedding, and the thought never occurred that they should be on it. I think we had something that like we invite you along with our families to this event


    Post # 63
    2073 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We included both sets of parents. Mine didn’t ask but it didn’t feel right not to since they paid for the whole thing. Husband’s parents were included just because. They were touched. Mine didn’t care we put the inlaws on there even though they didn’t pay for the wedding, just the rehearsal dinner. Luckily, both sets of parents were very laid back about the whole process and didn’t give us a hard time about anything. 

    Post # 64
    3562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I did simply because my parents are paying for over half the wedding. Since they are “throwing” us the wedding, it made sense that “they” formally invite our guests. 


    Post # 65
    157 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @engleman10513:  we put both parent’s names on ours… both parents expected it… it is a cultural norm for Mexicans. 🙂

    Post # 66
    3723 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @engleman10513:  My parents’ names will not be on the invites nor will FH’s. I asked my parents and they didn’t expect to be on the invites. My parents are contributing approximately 1/4 of the wedding budget but don’t care if they are mentioned or not. Works for me!

    Post # 67
    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Niether of our parents contributed money, so neither of them were put on the invite!

    Post # 68
    930 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We did, our parents paid for everything, so we only felt it was right.  Plus my brother’s crazy EX Fiance left off my parent’s name on purpose (while putting her mother’s name bigger than the couple, and my parents were going to pay for everythibng, her Mother nothing)  Needless to say that was a BIG deal with my parents, and there was no way we would touch that problem with a 30 foot pole!  Also it is the norm in my area for it to be included, but a lot of people get married young where I came from.

    Post # 69
    3696 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We did:




    along with our parents, invite you…

    We paid for most everything, but my mom helped me do some stuff, as they were close to the venue (my hometown) and my parents paid for my dress.  His parents gave us a large cash gift after the wedding.  So while they didn’t pay for it, they could have covered it (though I had no clue how much it would be before), so we wanted to aknowledge somehow that they were contributing.

    Post # 70
    436 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    We paid for our own wedding, so we didn’t put their names on it

    Post # 71
    2466 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    we are planning and paying for everything so its just our names….I did add a line just to be nice that says “Please join us and our families on this memorable day”

    Post # 72
    2359 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We didnt but we did on the website after my mom saw the invite and got upset.

    Post # 73
    184 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We put our parents names as a way to honour them, I think it’s pretty mixed among my friends about half did and half did not. 

    Post # 74
    13610 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    It makes me sad that people think that $$$$ is necessary in order to “buy” hosting honors.   The host CAN be  the one who pays, and often is, but that is not the definition of a host. 

    Etiquette maintains that it is absolutely no one’s business who pays the bills. 

    Post # 75
    50 posts
    Worker bee

    Even though we are paying for the wedding ourselves, we are putting our parents names on the invitation.  They are just mentioned at the end of the invitation.  I just think they would be hurt if their names weren’t on there and it doesn’t hurt to put them on there anyways.  The invitation indicates that they aren’t paying, but just are there to celebrate.

    Post # 76
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We didn’t include our parents’ names on the invitation for a variety of reasons (for example, my family is disjointed). Either way, my family only contributed a very small amount and DH’s family didn’t contribute any. My side didn’t care about being included but his side had a full-blown hissy fit about it.

    We stood our ground and our invitations went out without parents’ names on them.


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