Post # 32
I invited my ex (whom I’m still friends with) and his current gf. He politely declined, then later messaged me on FB that they’ll be away on vacation around my wedding date….. aaaaaand that his little lady felt awkward about going to my wedding. I’ve never met her before, but he apparently talked about me enough to make her uncomfortable. Oh well, it is what it is. We needed to cut down our guest list anyway! 😛
Post # 33
I’m friends with one of my exes and SO keeps in touch with all of his. I expect at least 4 of our collective exes are considered close enough friends to be invited. His most recent ex (5 years ago) is the mother of his child and she told me that she’ll be very upset if she didn’t receive an invite to our wedding and that she better get one, whenever it may be. well, okay then.
Post # 34
@distracts: + a million
Unless you’re great friends, exes don’t belong at your wedding (or any event). Both Fiance and I have shitbag exes, so that’s a no. We have a friend who literally does not understand why we aren’t friends with our exes–at 30, she has never had a bad relationship/breakup and is still friends with all of her exes. She doesn’t understand why I hate FI’s psycho ex, or why I hate my own, for that matter. Considering our exes are both crazy and emotionally abusive? I’m shocked none of his friends knew that, since they all hung out with her pretty frequently.
Post # 35
I’m quite lucky in this sense- it hasn’t been an issue. Neither of us are in contact with our exes, nor do we have mutual friends. There is one person my Fiance briefly dated who is friends with someone in our circle, but not close enough to come to our wedding.
My ex was emotionally, verbally, physically and sexually abusive so if he turned up, my father would probably murder him.
Post # 36
Circumstances alter cases and that’s a topic that is different for everyone. I would not be comfortable with it and I know my Fiance wouldn’t be either. There’s no reason to invite them. Your celebrating your new life together as a family, why bring previous candidates into it??
Post # 37
Other: he dated this girl for like 4 months in college. It wasn’t serious and they never even had sex. I’m actually friends with her and her sister and their whole group of friends. Sounds like she’ll probably come, and I hope she does, she’s awesome! She and fiance just weren’t good in a relationship, so hey.