Did you invite your boss to your wedding, or will you?

posted 4 months ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

I invited my awesome COO, CFO, and receptionist. I did not invite my direct manager or any of the other 90+ employees. If you think he would enjoy himself and would like to see your union, go for it. If you think he would only come becausehe feels obligated, don’t. Also, an invite is a request. If he doesn’t think it’s appropriate, he can decline. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Don’t feel obligated either way.  If this is a moment where you’d like to share with your boss then invite them.  If you feel the opposite than dont.  There is no right or wrong with this.  When planning our wedding me and hubby made sure not to get caught up in invting people out of obligation.  We wanted who we wanted the rest who cares.  Weddings are expensive and we were’nt about to shell out money for people we dont care about to eat and drink on our dime.

I only invited 2 coworkers to my wedding not inlcuding my boss.  I didn’t discuss my wedding plans or anything at work so I made sure not to rub peoples faces in it or anything.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Nope.  I wouldn’t invite my boss to a family event (including weddings and funerals). 

I wouldn’t want my supervisor to tell stories about or show photos of my wedding to other coworkers. I don’t want stories about a drunk friend or family member to become workplace conversation. I also know I can’t control what photos or stories someone shows/ shares about their own experiences.

To me, crossing lines at work is all downside risk with no upside.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

marybee22 :  I invited my direct manager, he and his wife came, we also invited a friend who we work with who is pretty high up in the company. 

BUT, we hang out with these people outside of work, they’re both around our age and like to party so we knew we didn’t have to worry about them seeing us in “different form”. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn

I did not. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

my husband invited a few coworkers.  including the owner’s son.  but they are friends outside of work too. and one of his coworkers was a groomsman, but they knew each other long before working together.

i did not invite anyone from my work.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

hell naw lol.
Seriously though, my bff invited like…all of her coworkers and even her coworkers from a previous job…like what?

If you are friends with someone you work with outside of just at work, I can see it, but personally I would not. I prefer to keep a bit of separation between my personal life and my professional life. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

i am inviting roughly 10-15 of my work friends, including my boss and the CEO. We do regularly hang out ouside of work (band nights at the local bar, summer parties, weddings, sporting events etc)  I’m just strigling on where to draw the line with invites.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

When I moved I made friends with my 3 female coworkers. We became very close even outside of work. One of them is my maid of honor. But my boss and all the managers at work are serious judge mental assholes that all of us hate. I’d rather elope than have to invite them or have them know anything about my personal life haha. Also counting down the months till I can get prego and quit after the wedding. Lol

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

My dividing line was whether I hung out with the person outside of work. And I didn’t count generic large-group happy hours, either, only plans that had been made with that specific person.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

I don’t hang out with any of my bosses outside of work, but they were the only 3 work people I invited (with their spouses). 2 came 🙂 

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No.I believe in boundaries between my work and social life. My boss is a great person, but she is not a friend. We only invited work colleagues with whom we have a social realationship outside work.

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