(Closed) Did you invite your boss to your wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 33
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I work for a really small company with only one other coworker and my boss. I am inviting both of them and their spouses. I think, however, if I was working for a large company, I wouldn’t invite anyone. 

Post # 34
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1829 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

nope but I did invite 3 coworkers, work and home are two different things and I keep my personal private.

Post # 35
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yes I did, plus 4 other co-workers.  I’ve been at my company 5+ years, so I am pretty close with all of them.

Post # 36
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

I plan to invite my boss and my boss’ boss (whom I used to be directly under).  I honestly wish I could invite our whole team, but it’s gone from like 4 people to 15 and I can’t accomodate everyone plus dates.

Post # 37
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Nope. I started planning at my old job, which I hated. I do like some of the people here, but it would be weird to invite them. It’s funny that I’ve worked here the same amount of time that I did at my old job, but it feels like no time at all, whereas my old job felt like an eternity (in hell). Our guest list was solidified a while ago, though.

Post # 38
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Agree with maya2008 and you’ll want to read the topic that she linked to.

From an Etiquette point of view, it isn’t a good idea…

Inviting co-workers is a common mistake that many Brides (particularly young or first time Brides) make in an effort to be seen as “friendly / inclusive”

In reality, that isn’t what matters in the work world.

Mixing Business with your Personal Life is NEVER a good idea… as there is ALWAYS the opportunity for too much spill over from one to the other, and something coming back to “bite you on the butt” down the road

There was a poor Bride on here yesterday, who illustrated this perfectly.

There are only 4 of them in the office… she is thinking of inviting her other 2 co-workers (her Bosses) but not the 4th person (as she and her have had a major falling out).  Of course the issue then becomes… a situation where she is seen as not being a “team player” in front of her Bosses… but she cannot imagine having the person she doesn’t like at the Wedding either.

Best Bet… Don’t invite any of them.  Thereby, keeping the two halves of her life very separate… and foregoing any drama that comes from mixing the two.

Soooo… much easier.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I invited my boss and a few of the managers but I like all of them as people. They were all very excited and they all came.

That being said, we did not have a drunken, crazy bash or anything. We ended at a decent time and no one was drunk off their rockers. There was no drama. I wasn’t embarrassed by anything that happened at my wedding.

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MrsRedPumps:  ugh! I’m trying to decide this as well. 

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I plan on invited my manager and the others in my work unit (there 7 plus me in our unit).  We all work closely together.  There are a few other people in my building I have lunch with/am friendly with but I’m keeping it to my unit.  Also my manager was my coworker before she was my manager.

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsRedPumps:  I am inviting my boss, my 2 coworkers, my Retail Operations Officer AND my Distric Manager. All but 1 are women and I know they will be offended (exept maybe my ROO) if they are not invited. I feel like if I invite my DM I should invite my ROO. I am having a fairly large wedding tho so if they come great, if not thats ok too. I just know that my DM made a comment about a banker at another branch not inviting her to his wedding a few months back so I dont want to offend her. I think its normal to invite at least your boss. Im sure in most cases they just send a card or gift. I should prob note tho that I work for a company that has a “family” mentality. I know mixing business and personal life prob isnt a good idea in many companies but in my case I know that these people will definately be hurt if they are not invited.

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’m inviting my boss but that’s because it’s my dad Smile. My partner on the other hand said hands down absolutely no way will she be inviting her boss or coworkers. She is EXTREMELY private and doesnt want this day shared with anyone but family and close friends.

Post # 44
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6261 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

We’re inviting most of my FI’s coworkers, including his boss, and the boss’s boss.

Post # 45
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I’m going to invite all my coworkers (~18 people), but I doubt most will come.  The wedding is about 3.5 hours from where we live, during the super busy time of year at work.  However, we’re a pretty close office and I spend a lot of time traveling & hanging out with my coworkers for my job (and some of them are legitimate friends), so it seems appropriate to invite them.  This does include my two bosses.

Post # 46
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Bee Keeper

Nope!!! I’m having a destination wedding so that makes it easier. I’m also having an at home ceremony but I decided not to invite anyone from my work cause frankly we invited to many other people. My fiance isnt currently working so there is no people to invite from his workplace lol

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