(Closed) Did you invite your FMIL to get ready with you?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
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  • Post # 2
    2668 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    Our wedding is in December. I do not plan on asking my Future Mother-In-Law to get ready with me – it’ll be crazy enough with my bridesmaids and my own family without throwing her into the mix. One of her daughters is a bridesmaid but the other 2 aren’t, so she can get ready with them if she really cannot bear to get ready alone. Besides, my Fiance will be at her home the morning of the wedding and I’m sure she’d much rather spend time with him than with me.

    Post # 3
    5152 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    futuremrsm3:  I did and it was totally fine. I think she was happy to be included. 

    Post # 4
    916 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I did not, though if she had expressed any interest, I would happily have extended an invite.  Granted, the bridesmaids and I were at my parents house so it would’ve been a little odd, I think.

    Post # 5
    6943 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

    My Future Mother-In-Law will be there with me, my mom, and all my girls. But we get along really really well. I took her wedding dress shopping with me too. 

    Post # 6
    4063 posts
    Honey bee

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    futuremrsm3:  no, I have no plans to invite her to get ready with us. I want it to be a special time with the women who are closest to me. While I am working on a relationship with my Future Mother-In-Law, I don’t feel 100% comfortable around her yet so I don’t want her to be there for that. 

    Post # 7
    697 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2016 - Akron, OH

    I didn’t know this was a thing… I do not think I’ll be inviting my Future Mother-In-Law. I just don’t want anyone there except my bridemaids. Everyone else can wait to see me at the ceremony. Not that I don’t love Future Mother-In-Law, I just don’t want a zillion people in the room with me. 

    Post # 8
    4037 posts
    Honey bee

    Nope. She wasn’t interested in anything about the wedding.

    Post # 9
    3030 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    Im sure I’ll be getting ready with my fmil since she’ll more than likely be doing my hair for me. She owns her own salon and it would be weird to go to someone else. Since our wedding is in his family’s state, we’ll be staying in his mom’s home anyhow so all my things will be there to get ready. I don’t have anyone else to get ready with and I know she’ll enjoy seeing my ao dai before anyone else does. 

    Post # 10
    1323 posts
    Bumble bee

    I asked her, but she didn’t come because she wanted to travel later with Future Father-In-Law. No big deal, I just didn’t want her to feel left out as she has 3 sons and no daughter of her own… Except me now, I suppose! 

    Post # 11
    3387 posts
    Sugar bee

    I did, for several reasons. Firstly, I love Future Mother-In-Law and we get along so well — my family recently moved cross country and its been so nice to have his family somewhat close. Secondly, Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t have any daughters and Fiance is her first son to get married, I know she will enjoy being part of the getting ready process 🙂 But, to each their own, it’s your wedding day — do what makes you happy! 

    Post # 12
    9521 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    She did join us but was not expecting to be invited. My SIL was a bridesmaid and her daughter was the flowergirl so I thought it would be nice for the three generations to be together

    Post # 13
    1932 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Still uncertain about what to do myself.

    I want my Maid/Matron of Honor (FMIL’s daughter) to feel comfortable and I know she’ll want her mother there, but I also don’t like the aura my Future Mother-In-Law gives off. She’s sulky. Has no opinion and is just kind of like a bump on a log and I don’t want her to kill ym vibe, lol.


    Post # 14
    2719 posts
    Sugar bee


    She’ll be getting her makeup done along with my mom and bridesmaids in our hotel suite.

    Post # 15
    948 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    My Mother-In-Law was there with us for all the prep–me, the bridesmaids, and both moms. We’re not super close yet but it was an important day for her too and I know it meant a lot for her to be included. We also had some special emotional moments which made the day even better!

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