(Closed) Did you invite your FMIL to get ready with you?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
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  • Post # 46
    1377 posts
    Bumble bee

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    futuremrsm3:  I did.

    My FI’s sister is a Bridesmaid or Best Man and my mum will be there too so I wanted to include my Future Mother-In-Law.

    My father and my Future Father-In-Law will be with the groomsmen at a hotel suite. If everyone gets ready together, we can get family pictures out of the way sooner.

    Post # 47
    188 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    No I didn’t not invite mine. She basically invited herself (and expected me to pay for her hair and makeup) and I had to tell her she couldnt get ready with me which was quite awkward! 

    She and I do not have the best relationship. She is very pushy and opinionated. I was quite a nervous bride and needed calming and soothing energy around me which I know wouldn’t have happened if she was around! 

    Post # 48
    942 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    So for those that DID NOT have her get ready with you, but she asked…what did you say/how did you handle that?

    I’m like several of you…I love her but she’s opinionated and will be all on top of me and I’ll just want to relax chill….I guess just say I’m getting ready w/ my bridesmaids…? I actually have no clue on this as two of my four bridesmaids are moms and will be tending to their kiddos so they may just meet me at the church


    Post # 49
    142 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2016


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    futuremrsm3:  It depends on your Future Mother-In-Law. It sounds like it might not be a fun occasion for you if you did invite her, so maybe don’t and just say, “I thought you would want to be with your son to help him get ready and take a few pictures with him beforehand?”

    Then she has a job to do and she’s out of your hair. 😉

    Me? My Future Mother-In-Law will be with my fiancé. For this reason. And she loves that reason. Might work for you!

    Post # 50
    403 posts
    Helper bee

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    futuremrsm3:  I am planning on it. She doesn’t have any daughters and I think she’ll enjoy the experience. We get along well though. I’d hate to have her feel left out.

    Post # 51
    28 posts
    • Wedding: June 2016

    I will be… We are all staying at a lodge together (my parents, his parents, grandparents, and both of our brothers). So I figure even if they aren’t their the whole time, all of the women in the family will be around – and I’m happy they will be!

    Post # 52
    694 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Mine did my hair, so yes. 

    Post # 53
    2238 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Yup. And my grandmother-in-law. 

    My Mother-In-Law doesn’t have a daughter, so I felt like it was important to include her in that (she also came dress shopping, to our food tasting, etc.). We also get along wonderfully, and she didn’t stick around the whole day (she and Father-In-Law happened to be in the room across the hall from my suite). I loved having her and her mother there – but I’m definitely a more the merrier kind of person in this type of situation.

    Post # 54
    57 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I will be inviting her to get ready with us. She’s not contributing to anything and she’s very opinionated, so it will likely just be her drinking and making it about her. But honestly I’d rather deal with her there for a few hours (I’ll most likely be caught up in my own stuff too much to notice her) than deal with her complaining about no invite for years.

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