(Closed) Did you know about your bridal or bachelorett? How far along before the wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
8679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m not sure what to say about the shower since your wedding is 27 days from now. PLEASE do NOT plan that yourself. However, the bachelorette you can organize yourself. My Maid/Matron of Honor planned nothing. My other bridesmaids did but for my bachelorette we all made the decision and I paid for myself since we went to another country for it….

Post # 3
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

How old is your MOH? I ask because maybe she doesn’t know that the Maid/Matron of Honor is the one who plans these events. Until I had a close friend get married, I had no idea how any of that worked.

Post # 4
894 posts
Busy bee

I think you’re going to have to skip a shower, or it will have to be a very small one with your timeline. A venue needs to be arranged, it needs to work with schedules, invites need to be sent out, etc.

As far as bachelorette party that can still happen but dont expect anything extravagant.

For both of mine my Maid/Matron of Honor and I picked a date about 6 months in advanced. I actually helped plan both, which I honestly found annoying. Simply because I had to help line up food, grocery shop, make decorations, etc. I was so happy that she was willing to throw me one it was just hard when I knew that 3 weeks after my shower I am getting married and it is a very busy time for me.

Post # 6
3022 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

No one is planning a shower for me and i”m glad b/c I think they are bogus gift-grabs.

My cousins, SIL and sister are planning my bachelorette, but nothing was discussed for ages. Finally about two weeks ago I heard a whisper of a rumor, lol. It’s happening this Wednesday and my wedding is on Saturday.

If no one else had, I would have planned something very mellow myself– either drinks at my favorite pub or a spa day for whoever could make it. I’m sorry your cousin isn’t clued in or motivated. But good for you for making it happen!

Post # 8
709 posts
Busy bee

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JJSoon2bwife14:  Wow $800 is a hell lot of money for just a room. Or does that include food and drinks as well? Still not very well planned on her behalf imo; if she wanted others to help foot the bill she should have figured it out with them PRIOR to paying the deposite. 

Hope shower & bachelorette work out in the end anyway. Good luck

Post # 9
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JJSoon2bwife14:  Ugh. That stinks. Sending you happy thoughts & hoping everything works out. I am also likely not going to have a bridal shower unless I want to go to a “surprise” one that is also a baby shower for my Future Sister-In-Law (FI told me in advance abt the shower bc he thinks it’s a pretty weird thing to do both at the same time, which I agree with). I still need to figure out how to word that I don’t want to go to that one but at the same time, it means no shower most likely. I can identify with not caring abt the gifts but wanting to participate in the games & family love time for sure.

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