Post # 1
I have a few questions to ask..
Did you guys know about your bachelorette party or bridal shower?
Did you plan your own bachelorette party?
Did your Maid/Matron of Honor help you out with planning?
Did your Maid/Matron of Honor ever tell you she will try to make it to your bachelorette party?
I am kind of perplex about one of MOH(cousin), my wedding is in 27 days and I have not had a bridal shower or real talks about any events. Is it that she do not want to do one for me. I want to experience everything, yes I can plan my own events and it is not about gifts I just want to have my last days as a single friend. I thought this experience was suppose to be fun and my girls would be happy and we celebrate friendship and love.
Post # 2
I’m not sure what to say about the shower since your wedding is 27 days from now. PLEASE do NOT plan that yourself. However, the bachelorette you can organize yourself. My Maid/Matron of Honor planned nothing. My other bridesmaids did but for my bachelorette we all made the decision and I paid for myself since we went to another country for it….
Post # 3
How old is your MOH? I ask because maybe she doesn’t know that the Maid/Matron of Honor is the one who plans these events. Until I had a close friend get married, I had no idea how any of that worked.
Post # 4
I think you’re going to have to skip a shower, or it will have to be a very small one with your timeline. A venue needs to be arranged, it needs to work with schedules, invites need to be sent out, etc.
As far as bachelorette party that can still happen but dont expect anything extravagant.
For both of mine my Maid/Matron of Honor and I picked a date about 6 months in advanced. I actually helped plan both, which I honestly found annoying. Simply because I had to help line up food, grocery shop, make decorations, etc. I was so happy that she was willing to throw me one it was just hard when I knew that 3 weeks after my shower I am getting married and it is a very busy time for me.
Post # 5
I did decide to plan my own bachelorette party… I decided to do it the weekend before my wedding, we will start it off with cocktails, tapas in our white tanks, jeans and pumps and end the night with a drag queen show. I realized how many folks who really are my friends and frienmies.
My cousin is 43years old…I saw her yesterday and asked if she is coming to the Girls night out she said she does not know. I just shrugged my shoulders and my expectations for my entire wedding party is none now.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
No one is planning a shower for me and i”m glad b/c I think they are bogus gift-grabs.
My cousins, SIL and sister are planning my bachelorette, but nothing was discussed for ages. Finally about two weeks ago I heard a whisper of a rumor, lol. It’s happening this Wednesday and my wedding is on Saturday.
If no one else had, I would have planned something very mellow myself– either drinks at my favorite pub or a spa day for whoever could make it. I’m sorry your cousin isn’t clued in or motivated. But good for you for making it happen!
Post # 7
Thank you…. bridal showers are gift grabs, but I was not looking for gifts really I just wanted one. lol just to experience the silly games funny finger food etc.. Yes i had to get the bachelorette party poppin, I also had to nudge his bestman(brother) to get into action. I think I want to many shows, but I also learned not to expect folks do what you would do for them in a hot second.
Update…so I got the nerve to ask my cousin last night, she informed me the Bridal shower is July 19th. she was trying to have it at a country club but none of the other girls had any money. I said to here did you ask them in advance or ask them to help you think of some ideas even though they are not in here. They feel like she planned this big event without there input. Her son works at the country club so they gave her a price of $800 with a $450 deposit and may lose it if no one helps her. I wish she spoke with the girls early in the game cause if she did they would be able to prepare.
Post # 8
Wow $800 is a hell lot of money for just a room. Or does that include food and drinks as well? Still not very well planned on her behalf imo; if she wanted others to help foot the bill she should have figured it out with them PRIOR to paying the deposite.
Hope shower & bachelorette work out in the end anyway. Good luck
Post # 9
Ugh. That stinks. Sending you happy thoughts & hoping everything works out. I am also likely not going to have a bridal shower unless I want to go to a “surprise” one that is also a baby shower for my Future Sister-In-Law (FI told me in advance abt the shower bc he thinks it’s a pretty weird thing to do both at the same time, which I agree with). I still need to figure out how to word that I don’t want to go to that one but at the same time, it means no shower most likely. I can identify with not caring abt the gifts but wanting to participate in the games & family love time for sure.
Post # 10
she told me it includes everything, drinks, food and decor also we will have access to the golf course.
Post # 11
Thank you for happy thoughts and I am sending them back your way. Well I hope they do not loop them together, because it would be weird sort of. I just thought our friends would want to celebrate the occasion even if it is on a smaller scale. I know the Girls night out will be fun, cause I even asked some of my co workers to come. They have been so supportive of me and I tried to invite them to the wedding but they declined the invite cause they know my situation. they are my work bridal party lol, it seems with my girls it is a a hardship. I asked them a year ago and informed them the cost to be in it. I also gave them a choice to be a guest especially the ones from out of state. They agreed, they are complaining about air flights, alterations, shoes etc… I feel so bad now. I do not want them to have hardship and now my cousin is asking for $100 for a shower they did not plan or be at.