Post # 1
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Helper bee
Okay, so, I’ve been patiently (and not so patiently sometimes, lol) waiting for my boyfriend to propose. Our timeline is up on August 15th (my 30th birthday). We leave for a vacation (with my family) on August 8th.
I’m not really stressing about it anymore at this point, because my birthday is coming and either it’ll happen or it won’t, but here’s my question.
COULD it even be happening? If he hasn’t ordered the ring yet, it’s getting to the point where it’s too late for him to get it before we leave for vacation. I have seen no indication that he has made any steps towards doing this.
He’ll tease me about how much I’m going to love my birthday present and then make up something dumb that he’s getting me (lately it’s these magnetic alignment bracelets), which seems like a good sign, but I just feel like, since we live together, I would have some kind of inkling if the process of getting the ring was underway.
Brides who had a timeline: was he able to keep it a complete secret, or did you have some idea when he was ordering/when he got the ring?
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I had no clue. We talked about marriage maybe once, and it was along the lines of, “I want to get married some day.” Other than that, never. I had no clue that a proposal was even on the radar.
Post # 3
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Busy bee
nothing: I haven’t gotten engaged yet and I don’t think my guy has gotten a ring yet…but I just wanted to say this.
Of the ladies that know he has the ring it seems to be that they helped pick it out, their guy is a completely awful secret keeper, or they snooped hardcore.
I feel like if a guy REALLY wants to surprise you and puts his effort into getting the ring without you knowing. Even if you live together you can easily have no idea. I know my SO is good at keeping surprises and I know I won’t know once he has bought my ring so I wouldn’t worry too much. 🙂
Good luck on your vacation and I hope you come back ENGAGED!!!
Post # 4
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Helper bee
- Wedding: April 2016 - Loveless Barn
We didn’t have a specific timeline, just had discussed before moving in together how seriously we took that and then about a month after, we had a very serious discussion about why he hadn’t felt ready before but that was no longer an issue. Then I sort of put it out of my mind. Apparently a month or so after that, he started looking at rings and checking out different stores. I had no clue…it was all done under the guise of working late, going to the gym, or running errands, all of which he does regularly anyway so it was easy to keep it a secret. But he eventually broke down and asked for my ring size after he’d been shopping 4 or 5 weeks so at that point, I knew it was coming and happened 3 weeks later.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
Maybe he will use a placeholder so he’s not worried about the real thing.
I picked my own ring.
Post # 6
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Newbee
I picked my own ring as well. ^
We had been dating since June of 2011!!! Took him long enough to ask. It was more of a “so we gonna do this or what?” Lol jk.. But yeah we went to look at rings.. I told him which one I liked and the rest is history. Getting married in October
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
I picked a ring out with my sister on a whim one day. She brought him back to get it. He propsed a month later on vacation.. It was supposed to be a surprise, but he answered a phone call from the jeweler (it was customized) while we were at tartet. He walked to the next aisle thinking I Couldn’t hear him…He’s a LOUD talker.. Lol I still acted surprised although I knew the exact moment he was going to asK. I tried getting him to go for A walk on the beach with me the past three years and he never would. Then last summer he was overly adamant on us going for a walk And proposed less than 60 seconds of us touching the sand! it was still sweet..
Post # 8
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Helper bee
We have been living together for a few years, never really discussed marriage in any particular detail, though we knew at some stage it was going to happen (we have been together for eight years). It was just something that we assumed would happen. I just jokingly told him once preferably before I am thirty. He had been saving for my ring for some time before that conversation and had been shopping around extensively, I had no idea. He bought my ring months before he proposed, I had no idea. We went on our first romantic holiday together, it never crossed my mind that it was happening or could potentially happen. I was shocked and completely thrilled when it did. I was incredibly impressed that he never let on that he was up to something.
Post # 9
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Worker bee
We went together to choose it and even sign the purchase agreement, so yeah, no surprise here. BUT, I wanted to get what I wanted to get, so I have no regrets about not being suprised. The propsal was a little bit of a surprise, but it was my birthday and once I figured out that he was recreating our first date… the rest is history!
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
I think my SO will propose without my e-ring. I’m under the impression he’ll propose and then take me to design my dream ring! I hope he proposes with SOMETHING though!!??
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
DH and I picked it out and ordered it together. I actually saw it in person before he did 😉 I texted him and got the OK to try it on before he got home from work 🙂
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
People can organise getting complicated things like rings in total secrecy. Not bought an enagement ring obviously, but plenty of other just as complicated gifts and surprised getaways (including finding and taking my SO’s passport and packing a weekend’s woth of clothes on the sly). If you want to get away with it in secret, you can! So I wouldn’t worry that it isn’t happeneing just because you have no inkling.
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
A friend of mine proposed to his girlfriend with a Haribo ring. Then they went and bought an engagement ring together. I love Haribo sweets so would have found something like this very cute.
Post # 14
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Honey bee
ni clue he had the ring or was seriously looking at rings. We knew we wanted to get married but our conversation about rings went something like this – him: I thought you’d like something vintage or antique. Me: yep, I’d love that.
He proposed 9 months later. No clue he had the ring. And we were living together 🙂
Post # 15
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Honey bee
nothing: I had no clue, actually. We had gone looking at rings one night, after he surprised me by mentioning that we could probably start looking at rings. But, I figured that he wouldn’t buy right away and would wait MANY months. But, nope… bought the ring a week and a half later, and proposed that same week! I was very surprised.