Did you know when your SO was going to propose?

posted 5 days ago in Waiting
Post # 31
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Busy bee

I had an idea because our engagement wasn’t some big secret. We discussed it and decided when we wanted to get married. The actually moment was a surprised but I had a feeling on the weekend because I knew he picked up the ring.  I only just got engaged Saturday hahaha 

Post # 33
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Honestly, I don’t think HE knew he was gonna propose. It just kinda slipped out while we were sitting on the couch in what was then his apartment. Basically, he asked me to elope. I was totally shocked but thrilled. We ended up having a small wedding with just family on the beach about 3 weeks later. 

Post # 34
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Sugar bee

It sounds like your situation is similar to mine. We regularly talked about getting married and then started the process of looking for rings and everything. 

There was about a week window we were on vacation and I knew it would happen but I had no idea what day or location he’d propose. We aren’t big in to theatrics so he didn’t get down on one knee or anything. I loved knowing where our future was going and I didn’t mind not being surprised. 

Post # 35
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I didn’t know it would be that day. We’d been talking about marriage and were looking at houses together. I had a “walk date” in mind about two months later, that I was going to end things if he hadn’t proposed.  But that day I just thought we were walking in the park. It was only when we were at a scenic overlook and I said I was ready to go and he said “just a few more min, I want to hang out here” that I started to realize something was up! He didn’t have a ring, we worked that out after, so I had no idea. If I knew the Jewish calendar better I might have been suspicious, as he proposed on an especially auspicious day, but I wasn’t aware of it that year. 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee

Yes. Hes always soo aweet and outspoken of his feelings but this was happening but it was on 1000 just before.. like a month before. After the proposal i knew he attempted plans that i cancelled, he tried to get me to do my hair and nails 

Post # 37
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Bumble bee

No.  We’d been discussing marriage a lot in the previous few weeks, so it wasn’t a total surprise, but we’d both said earlier on in our relationship that we thought it would be good to date for a year before making a decision.  But he ended up proposing 2 months early!  He’d been away with work for a few days, so he suggested going out for a meal to make up for not having seen much of each other in the preceeding couple of weeks.  And on the way home, we stopped off at a scenic view where we’d been for a walk on our first date.  I still didn’t guess because we usually stopped there whenever we drove past, if we had the time.  I guessed about a minute before he asked me, only because his breathing started to go funny like it does when he’s really nervous!

Post # 39
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Bumble bee

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@workingonmynightcheese:  To be honest, I can’t actually remember the words my OH used – or the words I used to answer.  I just remember jumping up and down and squealing and laughing and crying…I’m very glad we are NOT the kind of people who go for filmed/photographed proposals laughing

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2022 - Studio City , CA

 What a great story!!! Congrats.  🎉🎈🍾.  I dint think knowing steals any thunder it gives you a chance to plan your outfits to be camera ready!

 

We had personally talked about marriage and taking the plunge.  We picked rings together and he told me to send my top 3.  I sent my top 4.  I threw the last one in for laughs and indicated that I didn’t expect him to buy it because of the exorbitant price tag.  I suggested that he keep it in the back of his mind when we upgrade.  

After having a pretty depressing day and was crying most of the day due to worry about my Dads cancer prognosis.  Out of nowhere he very informally hands me a box and said I hope this makes you feel better. I was shocked beyond words when I opened the box because not only was it a engagement ring but it was the 4th one!  

my reaction was way over the top.  I wasn’t prepared and was nowhere camera ready. Never had I imagined being proposed to in leggings and a sweatshirt.  After he gave it to me I advised him to put it in the safe and plan a formal proposal. Plus I needed to lose weight. He did so on our 3rd anniversary. Here is the video footage

https://youtube.com/shorts/PbQZzwf6yww?feature=share

 

 

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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@workingonmynightcheese:  Congrats, bee- what an exciting time! We designed the ring together and already had a wedding date picked out prior to getting engaged, so I knew a proposal was imminent. But I didn’t know exactly when he was going to propose. He planned everything for the proposal himself. Being involved with designing the ring didn’t make it any less special for me, personally. 

Post # 43
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Helper bee

I had an idea and then I was tricked!! Now looking back, I should have known. 

We had a trip planned for our “we got snowed in together after just starting dating” days and I thought it would happen then (that would have been February 2021) 

In the meantime, we had a trip planned for Seattle in November 2020 for work/fun but then a Covid resurgence happened and Seattle shut down again. Oregon still was open in some areas. I was ok with not going anywhere but he was determined to go somewhere. 

Turns out, he was going to propose at the Pine Box in Seattle (meaningful place for us) and that didn’t work. So then he planned for this coffee shop where I knew I loved him and wanted to marry him (I told him that a year or so ago) but they  were closed. Then he thought this other bar we love in town. Closed. 

So we got an Airbnb in a town about 2 hours away to just relax. We did hikes and stuff. He had 2 proposal sites picked but it didn’t work out (too many people hiking) and so after the busy day we were playing Hunt a Killer and watching Supernatural and BAM 💥 proposal. 

I was shocked. 

Looking back, the fact that he insisted so much in going somewhere and his friend asking me about me proposing to him (his friend and I also chat and I was talking about how much I love my guy and he wa like, would you propose to him? I said I would but I think my guy would want to be the one to do it). 

We have been friends for 23 years and dating for 3 as of March 2021. Proposal was November 2020. Nice to know he can still surprised me after all this time haha 

Post # 44
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Blushing bee

DH is one of these rare breed of men who was planning an engagement and our life together without actually saying that’s where we were headed and what he wanted. We had been together about 16 months when he apparently bought a ring and had asked my dad to marry me. I hadn’t brought it up to him yet because I thought it was to early even though a knew I loved him and saw it in the future. I didn’t see the rush. I randomly mentioned something about marriage one day about a month before he proposed and he changed the subject. I didn’t think much of it and had no idea he had already planned the entire proposal. He proposed 18 months into our relationship.  It was completely by surprise and he told me later he had been planning for months and didn’t talk about it because he just assumed I would say yes and he wanted it to be the biggest surprise ever. 

Post # 45
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Newbee

I did not see the proposal coming, though we had had some discussions already about marriage and rings, notably, that I wanted to be involved in choosing the ring. He proposed (without a ring) on a weekend trip to Maine, in a spot that was already special to me. We were sitting on a bench and it was really buggy.  I was squirming all around because I was getting attacked, as I always do. Just before he got down on one knee, I had been asking to move along because of the bugs! When he proposed, my response was, “Are you serious?” I was so caught off guard! He said he had not planned to propose then and there, but the moment just struck him as right. I like that it was spontaneous and chill. 

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